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female
age
26-29,
*aaitlinemma
writes:What do you do when the only barrier between your ex and you is distance and fear of judgement from other people due to age gap?We both still have obvious feelings for each other after 6 months of dating- in that period we both knew the relationship had an expiry date when he moved away and did our best not to get too 'attached' to each other. We also remained as secret as possible due to the fact that I was afraid of the backlash we, in particular him, would receive due to the age difference (Im 18 and he's 29). So I suggested it remain a secret and it did.He moved away and just prior that we begun the just friends transition. The option of him no longer being part of my life and mine his is not an option and we are determined to stay friends. He helped me through a lot.The thing is we've been talking almost everyday since- mostly about training (um did I mention he coached me?) and on a generally friendly and almost professional basis. I miss him and he says the same for me and especially recently our conversations have become suggestive, flirty and pretty much the exact same as when we were dating.I have nationals in three weeks in the town he has moved to and of course its gone through my head that a one nighter is entirely possible and I know I shouldnt sleep with him but i am not very good at not getting something I want and its especially hard when its been made clear thats what he wants too..What do I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2014): You have feelings for each other, ? Is the secret because he crossed professional boundaries & your worried for his career?
If not, why worry, your an adult, your obviously getting on with your life as well as having an intense attraction. ?whats the harm, as long as he's single and so are you, it has absolutely nothing to do with anyone else.
As long as he cares for you and treats you well his age is of no significance at all. But question why you want to keep him a secret and that might answer your own uncertainties.
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