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writes:i want to start dating guys but what if your parents dont want you to yet and what if they tease you about liking boys what should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, BendychickP  +, writes (18 July 2008):
 Don't worry, my parents used to do the same thing. Unfortunately for you, parents rarely just change their minds about this sort of thing. What you need to not do is sneak around or lie to your parents. You need to talk to them about the issue, say that you don't like their teasing and ask if maybe they could let you start dating someone. Just take things slowly, like going out to the movies with your friends and make your parents see you are responsible. Throwing tantrums and acting like a child will get you no where. Show them that you are grown up and mature. Good luck!
Bendy xx
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reader, Ometeotl +, writes (18 July 2008):
 Parents will be parents. Your parents are going to set rules for you especially if your in your mid teens like yourself. Unfortunately you will have to abide by it as it is still your parents house and rules and not to mention they will do it for your safety. It shows you how much your parents love you so you might actually feel grateful if your parents are mean to you about it because they realy love you.
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (18 July 2008):
 Although I did this like two times, I wouldn't recommend you to keep your relationships a lie to them. The reason why I don't recommend it is because I felt some guilt for not telling my parents I was in a relationship. Plus, the guys I went out with did feel offended by me doing this because they thought I was ashamed of them.
Now, what you could do and it's very recommendable is to show them you're old enough to date. Act mature around them. Be nice and show them that you respect yourself. They'll see this and learn to trust you.
You could also have a talk with them. I know this sounds like a thing you would not want to do, but if you want to date you should at least give it a try. In the talk, tell them that you feel that you're mature to date guys and show them that you will respect yourself and let yourself be respected by those guys. What they fear is that you'll end up having sex and worse if you do get pregnant, so just tell them and assure them that you're mature enough to know the consequences and that you'll make yourself be respectable.
In the talk, try to keep your composure. Stay calm and clear and on the point. Look them in the eye and try to look honest when you're telling them the stuff. Dress decently. You have to present yourself as a mature person to them so they will be more convinced that you're ready for this big step. Also, try to not be a brat around them as much as you can because this will make them change their mind and forbid you from dating.
I guarantee you this will work. I did this when I was 16 so my parents would treat me more like an adult (And other reasons). This came with more responsibility, but it was worth it.
Good luck and if you can keep us updated.
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