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writes:being a young lady growing up in todays society I feel a little confused as to what a womans role is anymore ?or what do men find attractive in a woman ?I am very aware of womens lib and i do support it, but a little part of me can't help but think we have taken on a little bit to much, in the fact that we not only are expected to be the main person (I'm not saying men don't but it is usually left to the woman) to clean the house, cook, raise the kids and now we are exspected to earn half the house hold wages.i find it confusing because I don't think i could earn enough to earn half the wages to support a family and raise it on top of that. Nor do i particularly like the fact of some of the opinons I have come up against that "your a woman you can or are supposed to do it just as much as me" when to be quite frank there are some things that I cannot physicaly do.which leads me to my main question, what do men like a woman to be like ? do they like them to be "girly" and might need a little bit of support from a man ?or do they want a strong minded woman who is very career minded and dosen't need a man for anything ?my second question is about, "boys nights out" why is it that when a guy has a girlfriend or wants a girlfriends. it is then nessary for him to go out on these nights out instead of seeing her ?If i have a boyfriend it is cose i want to spend time with him and go out with him(I don't mind going out to the clubs with his mates or just him), but the guys seem to want to spend all there time going out drinking all night without you, and not tell you anything about it,why is this ??sorry its a bit long, and thankyou in advance for your help !!!
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reader, SaintlySal +, writes (27 September 2008):
What do men like in a woman?In my opinion, men behave in an individualistic manner. Sometimes, it is far too easy for us to pigeon hole what we think men may like in a woman. Yet, in my professional opinion, while listening to men expressing themselves about woman a few generic traits may filter thru, but there is a strong personal choice thread.What do men like in a woman? A strong or girly type?Mmmm, without defining the concept of "a strong or girly type", I would be hesitant to put my head on the block with such a choice limiting question. However, it once again boils down to mutual personal choice.TAKE CARE
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reader, Dr Pete + ♥, writes (16 April 2007):
 Hi there,
I think you raise some important questions, in fact a few weeks ago there was a few stories running along this theme in the media, in that many women end up taking on too many things in their life.
I can't speak for all men but personally I like women who are sure of themselves and confident yet still "girly". I think many women think femininity is a weakness but women can be strong and feminine at the same time. I think women can be equal and independent, yet still want support from a man. Likewise I think men want support from a women. A relationship should be a partnership based on equality. I think personally I would prefer a women who had more ambition to raise a family than having a career, but that is because I think having a family is more important than having a job. I think I would certainly avoid any women who feel they don't need a man for anything, women who are anti-men are definitely a turn-off.
I think for the boys night out question you are quite generalising as many men would not want to go out for these kind of nights out if they had a girlfriend. I think the kind of guys who prefer to go out with their friends are just guys who don't want the same level of commitment in a relationship just yet. I have plenty of guy friends and enjoy going out with them but I've always preferred to spend time with a girlfriend. Sometimes we'd go out with my friends, or her friends, and sometimes we'd stay in or go out alone, others we'd go out separately. It's about being with someone where you're both happy.
I think like Dr John said, you will find men on both ends of the spectrum and it is through a process of getting to know men and dating them that you can find someone who is right for your needs and visa-versa.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2007): I dont know about young men today, but I am a 46 year old woman and have always been a really strong character. Men in my opinion cant handle that type of woman, therefore all my relationships have gone wrong over the years. I have now met a really nice man and decided to change tactics. I act very helpless, am very domesticated anyway, but really look after him, and it works. He falls over himself to look after me. I dont feel demeaned like I used to. In fact I love it. Dont be too strong, dont let anyone walk over you, but be a woman and let the men be the men!
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reader, Dr. John  + ♥, writes (16 April 2007):
 Whatever you do, don't try to be a square peg fitting into a round hole. It just doesn't work.
Just be yourself and a guy that fits your expectations will come along. I have never been one to "go out with the guys" and I have never required my wife to work. She did for part of the first two years we were married but that was her choice because I told her she could just stay home and take care of the kids if thats what she wanted. I'll not say it has been easy being the soul supporter in the family but it has worked out for us.
The guys, you will find, will vary in their expectations as widly as there are guys looking for girls. You just need to find one that fits your needs. They are out there but usually take a little patience to find them. Doc.
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