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writes:A couple of weeks ago, I told one of my best friends that I like her. It was kinda awkward and I had no confidence when I told her. Before this all happened, I used to think about her a lot. But now, she's all I think about. From the moment I met her, I knew she was special. I love her, of course as a friend, but I want to love her for real you know? I know it sounds pathetic, but what can I tell her to get her to realize how strong me feelings are for her? And even if I do say anything, is there a chance for us to be together?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (9 February 2012):
 But you already told her you like her, so she knows already does not she ?
As for your second question, I guess that to give you an answer, which would still be a guess, but at least a vaguely informed guess ,.. we should know how she reacted when you told her. Did she say anything, did she smile, did she look annoyed or surprised or flattered or... ? When did this happen, and how has she been treating you since then ?... More affectionately, more coldly, exactly the same ?...
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2012): I think it's awesome that you declared your feelings for your friend. Even if it was awkward and you felt you lacked confidence, you DID IT. That takes courage so WELL DONE!
It's very important that you did it, because now she knows how you feel, and things can develop from there, if it's mutual.
The fact you used to think about her a lot, and now you can't think of anything but her, is because by sharing your feelings, you've made it real, and you are so excited and happy you can't resist thinking about that which makes you happiest :) It's normal and wonderful and I'm happy for you.
It does not sound pathetic at all, it sounds like young love which is a beautiful thing :) You consider her special, you love her as a friend, and things can only get more special.
You have said how you feel, so to get her to realise how strong your feelings are, show her. Express it in your big smile when you see her. Write her cards/notes/letters/songs/poems whatever you enjoy, share it with her. Pick up a flower along the way and give it to her. Small inexpensive things that reveal your heart and will be treasured by someone who feels the same for you.
Is there a chance for you to be together? YES, IF she feels the same. You have not shared what her reaction was, so that will be conditional to the end result.
May your dreams come true with this girl :)
Best Wishes,
xxxx E
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