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Kat_Mono
writes:I love this guy I'll call him S. The problem is I'm only 13 and he is 16. I've known him for years and we have always shared this connection. He comes over to my house alot wih my dads friends son (who I'll call J and I always want to hug S when I see him but i don't think J would approve and J might convince my dad to keep S away from me and that would break my heart into about a BILLION pieces. What can I do to take my friendship with S up to a relationship? PLEASE HELP!!! Reply to this Question |
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reader, q1605 +, writes (4 July 2008):
 you should file this in the same drawer as crushes on teachers. At thirteen a guy 3 years older is out of your league. Good news tho. Wait till you are about 16 and that 3 year difference will be just about right. If he is on schedule with his progress you won't have to do anything but hang around and look pretty. He will do the rest.
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reader, ChiRaven +, writes (3 July 2008):
 S just obviously hasn't noticed you yet.
You don't say what S and J are doing at your house. OK, so J's dad and you dad are friends, but why are the two of them there? Is there some kind of activity going on that you can make yourself a part of? If S sees you as part of something he is doing, he might start to notice you as an individual and not just as part of the "background noise" at your house. Once that happens you could get a chance to get the message across to him, VERRRRRY CAREFULLY and gently, that you're interested. He probably still thinks of you as "a kid", and may not be quite ready to take you seriously, so this process may take a little while. But getting to know him better in a friendly and companionable way is definitely the best way to start.
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