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writes:3 years ago i met this most amazing lady,i was instantly attracted to her in every way not my usual thing as its normaly a particular something that get my attention.she was just so diffrent and challenging and that i had never seen before, anyway i persuade her until she finally accepted my offer of a no strings quiet drink it went great and we saw more of each other as time moved on,but being the player i have always been any feeling of attachment i instantly put up my barriers not letting her get close enough to cause me any hurt or pain, we was in love and yet i was afraid to let her into my heart, due to past experience, for 3 yrs she accepted the little love i gave her and she gave me every bit of herself, we had argument after argument about how selfish i was, how i treated her badly yet i denied it was me who had the problem an it was all in her head. its been 3 weeks since she ended us and i know she was everything i ever wanted but failed to be honest and trusting with her, i want her back in my life and to be given a chance to give her all the love she deserves, how and what can i do to show her that i want her.
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reader, Artistry  +, writes (17 July 2008):
 Hi, I think you realize a little too late, what you did to
to drive her away. You have to be willing to change and to grow emotionally, so as to not be afraid of intimacy. I think you realize this. Trusting someone makes you vunerable, and can be painful, if that trust is betrayed.
You have to try to win her back gradually, she is like a little puppy whose paw you stepped on, you can try to call it to come to you, and it has a painful paw, it doen't want anymore pain. It takes a while for them to trust you again.
You have to keep trying but slowly, until she sees you mean it. I would buy a very nice card which expresses your sorrow at what has happened. Write one sentence in the card "Please forgive me for not realizing what a jewel I had", send one rose with it. Wait a while and call her for a short conversation, let her know why you were not able to open up, but you are changing, ask her to give you the chance to prove it. Don't overload her, take your cues from her, but be there when you say you are going to be there, and for gosh sakes let her know how you feel when you are together. This is going to be hard for you because you have kept your feelings inside for so long, it has become a habit, to protect yourself as you said. You can do this, she cares for you, but remember the little puppy, give her time. Good luck to you in your quest. take care always.
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