A
female
age
30-35,
*ove-him
writes:i've been going out with my boyfriend for just over ten months, i am sixteen and he is twenty. throughout the relationship he has always been jealous of me and people at school, and the same with me and people who are a similar age to him and his ex girlfriends. recently i have got too fed up of him keep asking who my friends are, that i fell out with everyone. i am about to start my gcses and i walk around school on my own and the people i used to be friends with have decided they don't like me anymore anyway. this sounds very babyish, i really love my boyfriend, i have never felt this way before, he is kind and loving, however his temper has made him hang up the phone on me quite a few times, this has upset me a lot. i love him and in july he is coming to florida with me and my family, what should i do to make him calmer and also trust me with friends, as i am going to continue school and go to college, i cant have no friends their either, can i?
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reader, love-him +, writes (11 June 2007):
love-him is verified as being by the original poster of the question Hey thankyoo so much for ur help, means a lot x x x
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reader, Royofthe Rovers +, writes (9 May 2007):
 I feel you have let him "win" this situation, by letting him determine who you socialise with. At no-point did you give a reason in your post to signify that you have done anything wrong to deserve this level of untrust.
It is his jealousy which is ruling at the moment and it needs to be curbed. I can understand jealousy as everyone feels it when it comes to someone you love, but it is how you handle that feeling which determines the character.
This emotion that he has needs to stop, as it cutting you out of the social circle you probably need and liked. Tell him it is out of control and make him see what you have done to aid his negative feelings towards what I see as nothing but paranoia.
You have done nothing wrong here, and you can do nothing for him. It is himself who has to realise what is driving him and will eventually drive the two of you apart.
if he loves you, if he really cares for you he will aknowledge it has got to stop. A little bit of jealousy is a healthy thing to have, but it seems to have changed too much for you when you have deserved none of it.
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