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What can I do to bring the ball into my court?

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Question - (13 August 2009) 2 Answers - (Newest, 13 August 2009)
A male United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

hey everyone ...i had been going on with this girl for a year...she had put all her heart in this love and loved me from all her heart ...she was damn possessive about me and had been very supportive and a responsible gf ...but i dumped her for some reasons because it realy had no future ...

we became friends then and she became very obsessed about me trying to stay close to me...i felt very insecure and did all the tactics of talking less as much as i can...she went out of the town for her further studies and ultimately all the closeness started fading and her need for me also started becoming lesser day by day..

lately i have been missing her companionship a lot ...since we are friends, only i have been calling her and remembering her ...i have taunted her for this but i dont exagurate it cuz i feel like a despo ...she has been taking me for granted for several reasons because she knows she can have me anytime she wants as i have been showing the need for friendship since a long time and going behind her if suppose we dont talk for 2 days ...she doesnt call me anytime, never replies or calls back ON TIME unlike before when we were going on she used to be crazy about me ...it feels so sick at heart remembering those times ...sometimes i feel like breaking off this friendship but it feels so unnecessary and unreasonable to me as she is good to me and treats me well whenever we talk...perhaps this time i am expecting more i guess....but i am tired of arguing with her for it ...its like she hardly bothers if she doesnt reply! everytime i have to take all the initiatives......what can i do to bring the ball in my court ?

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A female reader, FindmMe_1224 United States +, writes (13 August 2009):

She's a girl and she is OBVIOUSLY really insecure!! and she must like u ALOT! and with her not responding is a tactic us girls like to pull. to make guys have antsy! lol also it kinda seems like u like her as well. u really need to get over ur insecurity as well because ur the guy! just be tough and maybe talk to her! about how u feel and other stuff. that will defiantly work!

hope i could help ya!

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A female reader, missy21 United States +, writes (13 August 2009):

Im sorry to tell you this but it seems she has moved on and you should too!!! Besides you broke up with her...do you want her back? or just as a friend? I think your just in need of that attention you had before and now its all faded away because she has moved on. I know this because I've been there and I still talk to my ex but I just dont care to give him my full attention, I'll be nice but very short! Hope this helps!

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