A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:What do you think are important things to feel in a long term relationship for it to stay strong and work well for a long time? I feel content with my boyfriend. As well as happy, stable, comfortable, loved, fulfilled and open. There's a lot of trust and understanding between us. We also have similar ideas on religion, the importance of family and financial priorities. I don't feel much excitement or that intense urgency to be with him. Is that ok? Is it normal for something longer lasting? Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (5 October 2010):
 Well, let me answer that with another question. If he told you that he was going to break up with you tomorrow, would you really care? If you would, if you know that you would probably begin crying immensely, then everything is fine. If you realize that you would not really be bothered by it, then it just probably was not love in the first place.
I hope that helps.
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2010): No, that sounds about right if you've been together for a few years.
Do you have similar libidos? Do you ring each others bells in bed? Do you enjoy each others interests mutually? Or do you put up with his, or he puts up with yours?
Do you respect your partner? Do you think well of them? Do they treat you well? Do you both want kids? The same number? Have you worked out your financial stuff? (even after kids - if you aren't working)
Just some questions.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2010): wow! how lovely to see someone demonstrate that relationships can just be that! ((*_*)) the question you pose noone can answer for you but you - we are each individual and require different things from our propspective relationships and partners .........seems you and your man have a lot of ticks going on there and whether it turns out to be long term or not I would just enjoy whats obviously a good experience and go with the flow .... why try and fix something that isnt broken? ;0) only time and your needs will tell here I think - but in my opinion you have a really good base to build on and grow anything that you may feel lacking. Good luck to you xx
...............................
|
