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writes:Hi. I'm male, 22, who is very shy around women (cliche I know, but true;) never had a relationship, and still a virgin. To be honest, the inexperience and virginity has never really bothered me, until I recently met a girl who I have real, deep feelings for...but of course this is where my inexperience makes me nervous. I have plucked up enough courage and I'm going to ask her out...but women readers, how do you like to be asked out? I'm totally inexperienced, and don't know how to go about it; but going up to her and just saying "Would you like to go out with me?" sounds extremely weird and stupid.So women, how would you like a guy to ask you out? What approach/scenario would make you women feel comfortable that you would say yes?But please don't say it would involve Yacht's or a whirlwind romantic trip to Paris, because unless I win the Lottery those scenarios ain't happening :-)
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reader, puds123  +, writes (20 July 2008):
hey, i'd keep it casual lots of eye contact and smile sweetly and just be like hey are you free this weekend fancy getting something to eat? or theres a new movie out??
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reader, bfire  +, writes (19 July 2008):
Easy...well I wouldn't say easy because I myself know that it is hard. Haven't dated a girl for 5 years (I am 23) and just recently decided to go on a date with a girl, basically just to go on a date. I like her but I am leaving the country in a month so not like too much could develop.Anyway ask a girl out like how you ask your friends out to go do something.Just be like "Hey, I was wondering if you wanted to hang out sometime?" If that has already been said and you have an idea in mind say something like this, nice and concrete, "This week lets go to see (Enter awesome movie name here)." or "do you want to go out to dinner this Saturday evening?" Just ask, don't try to be sly or anything, because then thats cheesy. It is helpful if you have some plan in mind, but remember to be flexible. So for example if you ask her out for Chinese but she is allergic to rice or something you can change the plan to a secondary restaurant. Ah also if you want to be a bit 'sly' but not cheesy. If you are talking to her (if you have the chance) and she starts talking about something like, "aww I love monkeys" Then say "hey lets go to the zoo, they have the best monkeys in the world." or something like that...I wouldn't use that exact wording...well you could, but it all depends on the girl. Or if she makes a comment like "I love sushi" or whatever...you get the idea...haha. That way it is something you know she likes, so even if she isn't sure if she 100% likes you, you know she 100% likes monkeys and raw fish... Also it doesn't have to be a yacht or a trip to Paris, and in fact that isn't a good first date. :P Just go have fun.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2008): Well Sweet Pea...the best thing to do is be very low key and casual. Say something like, "Hey, you wanna catch a movie with me Friday.?" or something like that. That you you let her know you are interested without sounding like a dork. Since I have been married since the dawn of time (8 years,) I can't tell you what exactly a woman wants these days....but be casual, and your everyday self. Good Luck Sugar Booger!!
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