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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Dear Cupid,Recently I have broke up with my boyfriend for 5 years and i didn't want to be with him. I feel we are living to different lives and see that he doesn't really accept me for who i am and through out the relationship I always felt like I had to hide myself and how really felt. In addition it always felt that he always made me feel guilty about a lot of stuff. but he still wants to work it out and be friends when i don't. I want to and i don't want nothing to do with him but he can't understand that. I wnted to ask for your help just need a better way of copping with this and how to solve it so i can move on and for him to move on. In addition i dont want to be with nobody at this point in my life. My other problem is that I have notice that i always make friends that are meant to be together but i cant ever find the right guy for me or the type of guy that i would want within a relationship. Just here to ask what is my problem and ways that i can solve it. Thank You
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reader, Daniel the love doctor +, writes (13 September 2011):
 I don't think that being friends with your ex right now is going to help you bounce back from you breakup. In this situation, what you may want to do is start avoiding him if he doesn't get the hint. You may need to erase text messages, get rid of/hide items in your room that he may've bought for you, etc., to start moving forward- so you don't focus so much on the past. And when you're ready to meet someone new in your life, start dating slowly. You should also read some self-help books/articles on How to meet guys and how to date. (I think these articles that I've written may also be of benefit to you: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-to-meet-the-man-or-woman-of.html http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-to-create-great-conversations-on-a-date.html )Also get to know an individual and be process-oriented (have fun, enjoy the date, conversation, etc) instead of outcome oriented (believing a relationship will manifest from your date, he's going to call you a lot, he's going to give you a kiss, etc). Eventually though, you will meet the type of man that you're looking for. You have to kiss (or come across) a few frogs before you meet your prince. :^)
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