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Daniel the love doctor
writes:To have a successful date, you must have great conversation. Conversation creates chemistry. Leaving out just one of these tips, can end a conversation quickly or be the cause of “date destruction”.Here are the top five conversation tips that you should know:1. Don’t talk too much about yourself. Nothing is more annoying than hearing someone talk too much about themselves or boast about their accomplishments. So save the detailed speech for another time.2. Ask open-ended questions. In other words, don’t just ask questions that end in a response of yes, no, or maybe. Ask questions that require an explanation or a brief dialogue.3. Keep the conversation balanced. Though you shouldn’t talk too much about yourself, you should mention some good qualities about yourself (remember: be careful not to boast). Don’t ask too many questions. That’ll make the other person feel that they’re on the hot seat. The best thing to do is find common interest and let the conversation flow. It will seem much easier this way, and you won’t have to rack your brain for questions.4. Keep the conversation light, playful, and positive.5. Stay away from opposing view topics such as religion or politics. Stay on common ground and away from things that may spark negative comments or viewpoints.If you study and implement these five tips during your conversation with a potential mate, you will have many great conversations with him/her. Your dates will also dramatically improve and you will have much better success in the dating world.
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reader, Daniel the love doctor +, writes (19 September 2011):
Daniel the love doctor is verified as being by the original poster of the question You got it Tennisstar! And by the way, I mentioned to ask BEFORE or AFTER the date. If on the phone call before you're just setting up the date, then you may want to call a few days after. During the first initial date, you won't know everything anyway. So it may be a good idea to ask more questions to find out who you are dating.Thanks again for your comment! :^)
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (18 September 2011):
 Mmm the phone call days before the day is to seal the deal with a date. I've never had a full blown convo on that day...conversation needs to be saved for that particular evening to avoid awkward silences.
I see your point, it would be wise to get some sort of idea of who you're dating.
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reader, Daniel the love doctor +, writes (18 September 2011):
Daniel the love doctor is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI totally agree that you should definately know at some point what the person's thoughts on religion and/or politics are. But in most cases, those topics are first-date ruiners. If one person disagrees with the other's views, it can be a disaster.
I believe that during the phone call a few days before or after the date is a good time to find out. Therefore you would save yourself from an awkward ot terrible situation (depending on how things go)- and you could excuse yourself off the phone if there's too much silence...or things get too heated. When you're on an actual date, and one of those topics causes a debate, it can be even more awkward and dramatic. And it may be difficult to transition into another topic after that.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (17 September 2011):
Can't disagree with the rest but.... on #5 sometimes it's good to touch on the religion and politics just so you know where they stand, that way you can avoid offending their religion or viewpoints.
What if you're Christian and your date is Atheist? I believe touching on religion would be permitted that way you don't end up dating someone who is your bipolar opposite.
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