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*hris060690
writes:A friend of mine introduced me to this girl on MSN, we talked for 2 days she gave me her cellphone, we talked over the phone and everything seems great. She likes serious relationships the same as me. We went on a date to the movies then we ate dinner and everything was great, she told me to call her after and she calls me in the mornings so I won't be late to school everything is great but most of the times I call her I would say 95% she doesn't answer and she calls me back like 2 or 3 hours after with a good excuse then we talk all cool but it happens a lot, every day I get pissed off and I don't let her know. I've only been talking to her for a week and a half. What can I do? Should I tell her I don't like that or what?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2008): I know you've only been dating a short time, but from the start of a relationship, it's always best when you're totally honest. It's great that you two have hit it off well, and I'm so pleased that you've found someone you get on well with, but you do need to tell her. Maybe one of the problems is, are you calling her too much? Every day may be a little too much for such an early relationship. I'd say a call every 2 days is nice, and then a text every day or something. Try not to be too heavy on her, as this may make her feel uncomfortable.
Next time she doesn't answer her phone, when she rings back, ask her why she didn't answer. Then casually mention that she never seems to answer her phone, and ask is everything ok between the two of you. If she's says yes, and then things start to patch up, great! But if she says yes and they don't, this is the point when I'd say you should be a little worried. And obviously, if she says things aren't ok between the two of you, this leads onto a whole different situation.
Just, casually, let her know that you're bothered a little by when she doesn't answer, then let her decide what she should do about it. But don't pressure her, just keep it calm for the moment :] good luck :]
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reader, korculan queen  +, writes (7 February 2008):
Maybe a far less controlling sort of way to approach this is to simply ask her what is a good time to call or text her first with are you free to chat. Wait for the response. You say you are in school so maybe if she is the same age she may have alot of activities outside of school or really strict parents. I like it when my boyfriend calls but I seem to call more than him and I have worked out a routine with him in that I call at a certain time when I know when he is winding down and relaxing and therefore not busy. Good luck. Honest open communication is the key and understanding.
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