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I'm tired of just lying there during sex. I want to know how to make it better for him!

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Question - (3 June 2005) 51 Answers - (Newest, 26 November 2010)
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I am a 15yr old girl and I've had sex before and all but I still don't know what to do. I just lay there not doing any thing it was good and all but I want to know what way to move and how to pleasure a lad.

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A female reader, hunibunny123 United States +, writes (26 November 2010):

hey well heres what i do :)

well im 19 and i love sex do it doggy style or try it in the bath or up the wall in the dark is always more romantic

materbate wiv eachther so u do it to him and he will finger u at the same time bumming is always funn also in the shower is fun or opposite ends so one of u is uppsidedown or put penut butter or somithing tasty on his balls and lick it of it really makes him happy

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A reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2010):

You are not ready for sex clearly!If sex is so important to you, why haven't you asked questions and figured out that just laying there is not sex but just letting him get off on you.At 15 you have way more in your life to ask questions about than sex!Get a grip and focus on you! not what your vagina could do!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2010):

first i dont think ur to young. your in charge of your own body and if you think ur ready then go for it.

just ask him what he wants im 14 and when me and my parner first did it i was just like you. i asked him what he wanted and he asked me what i wanted and our sex life has been amazing. i hope i helped you.

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A female reader, livy United States +, writes (15 March 2010):

I didn't lose my virginity till june in 2009. I had always been pressured into having sex, but I stuck with my morals. Honey age has nothing to do with it. Its all about how you feel and if you were really ready, look up books and similar questions online. That's how I learned most of what I do know. I'm 18 now and lost mine when i was 17. If you feel uncomfortable about asking him questions during sex then wait till you guys are having a conversation and bring it up, saying somewhere along the lines of is there anything I can do differently. Don't try and please him to just think he's gonna leave you because sex is bad.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2009):

I am 15 too and I lost my virginity when I was 12! Yeah I had sex when I was twelve! What u really have to do is hump him and maybe try different positions. Some people say not to have intercourse but i doit for fun! I luv it! whenever I have it my vagina tingles

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2009):

Heyy girly.

I just turned 16 but had sex at 15. Anyway, ppl keep saying your to young but nobody has really answered your question.

fist of all, its good to play a while first. just make out then with your tounge just slide down his body, suckin on his nipples just kissing. Then, you get down farther, kinda tease him by licking softly and kissing then you can start sucking. When your sucking, play with his balls, rub him with your nails. They LOVE it when you keep sucking when there cuming.they Loovee it. work your way back up.Being on top is good because you are in control and it drives him mad. Keep kissing. Hes hard- so kinda tease him let the tip of his penis enter you barely at all then out again do this for a couple of times when your ready let him inside you. once hes pretty much in, slide your hands under his butt. when he starts thrusting hard, push him w/ your hands so he can go in even deeper. wrap your legs around him and get as close as possible. After sex, his head his sensitive, but he will love you to play w/ his balls and massage him. just be close.

Try diff styles!!

Make sure he pleases you not just w. the sex but other things!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2008):

First off I must say that I was about 16 when I lost my virginity. I am now 32 years old and regret having lost it at that age with the guy I lost it with. Anyhow, I think the only real answer to your question is, if you dont know how to do anything but lay there then you arent ready. I know quite a bit and my husband is very satisfied, he wouldn't stand for me just laying there.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2008):

FIrst, of all. Let the girl be! at least she was 15 when she started having sex and not 12. I had sex for the first time when I was 18; he was 24. He didn't pressure me into it. Anyway...about the whole not knowing what to do, I have the same problem. Every guy is different, but they will let you know what does feel good and what doesn't for them. So, just go off of that and try things you think he might like. If he doesn't like it, don't take it personally; just try something else.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2008):

If you have something to say about being to young to have something to say about the question, then write something.

If it's crap about being too young to have sex, don't waste your time.

I found it hard too, not knowing what to do.

But, be imaginative.

Let him know if feels good, guys like that.

Don't just lay there, move too!

Tighten your vaginal muscles, and ride it a little.

If you run out of options tell him you want to switch positions.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2008):

well i am 16 and lost my v-card 5 days ago

yea i agree that its hard not to get bored or feel like you have nothing to do but lay there

so do wat i do just be completely open with him and ask him questions this will be fun and intresting because you will actually get what he wants because i know that all guys are diff and you want them to know that you have questions that way they can help you with either examples or ideas (examples are way fun) the cool part is that when you ask them they will ask you the same Q and then you get what you want which is always good. !!

peace hope it helps

and by the way i know 10 year old who already have sex so shut the hell up winey babies

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2008):

ladies most guys that are older as in 18 or 19 want to have sex with younger girls because they think the girl is a virgin and it will feel better but the truth is thats a lie all older guys end up doing is pressuring the girl and making them feel unComfortable untill they are tricked into beileiving there ready and younger boys like have sex with older girls so they can brag to there friends and they also think the older person may know more things about sex

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2007):

Okay well I would like to say something. I am 13 years old and I had sex last week with my 15 year old boyfriend. I've known him for about three months and we've been dating for about two. I know that I had sex VERY early in a relationship but, we both wanted to. I'd also like to know what to do because I just layed there too. It's best if you ask him what he likes. I asked him and he told me to take off his clothes for him and just be crazy? Also, I'm pretty sure guys like it when you make noise every now and then, my boyfriend does anyways ;)

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2007):

First of Girly you shouldn't be having sex at 15 years old, you should be puting most of your time in school, and doing something with your life, and having fun with your friends, your to young to be worring abut sex, and comeing to the internet for answers, you should talk to your mother. And is the guy you are having sex with over the age of 18, if he is, there is something wrong with him, for him to be having sex with a 15 year old?????

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2007):

im 17 and i lost my viginity when i was 15 i had been goin out with my boyfriend 2 years b4 we had sex and im still goin out with him now

As long as u know what u could get urself into, know that u both love each other and use protection then u should follow this advice

Meet him halfway and thrust towards him give the occasional moan and ask him for it harder of faster and kiss him once in a while also try doggy style 69 or lots of other positions and make sure u enjoy urself 2

b safe xxx

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2007):

im 16 years old and about 3 weeks ago i have sex with my boyfriend(16) for the first time! he was my first one and i was he's first!. although we only have 6 months going out and i always planned to loose it with someone i had a really lon time with, it just happend. it felt so right i love him and i know he loves me!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2007):

I am 16. I'm in the same position.

I've only had sex once. but i did just lie there. i felt stupid.

so those of you that actually helped instead of wasting your time and being rude. Thankyou. I think you've helped me aswell.

I plan to try on top. I'm just scared of doing it wrong.

So thankyou. And lay off the girl ok. Shes human. Shes a girl. and shes feeling sexual. I know i have for years.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2007):

Okayy you people are ignorant.

Im 15 almost 16 okayy.*

My boyfriend (age 17)and i have been together for about 3 years..

We just BOTH had sex for our first time last night.

Of course i was scared,but i relized he didnt pressure me into it..and i didnt pressure him into it..We talked about it right when we started dating..i said i want to because i think your right for me..and he always said during for play stuff like "What if you had a penis and i had a vigina?" then he said "we'd still be perfect for each other".

He isnt the type of guy that just trys to get in your pants..

Cause Sweetie* all guys arnt like that..Matter of fact i tell my boyfriend all the time i'll play jokes on him..the day before we had sex i was planning somthing..i wanted to see if he was using me for sex or not so i said lets do it 6 times tomrow night..and all this stuff..but he said no i dont think that would be right..we'll take it slow and easy and romantice for OUR first time..

Then after sex i told him i was pregnate to see what he would do .and he said right away i'll look for a house..and ill get anthher we'll paying job.

Hes already got 2 jobs a 4.0 GPA.

What more do i need?

He loves me.

But hunny what im trying to say is your not to young dont listen to people..in afaganistan the legal age is at 12.

So if you feel your ready and this is what you want..do it!

But also..test him out a little bit to see if hes "the guy for you" or if he "loves you".

And another way to plessure him is to make alot of noise and cute little faces during sex.

They like that.

I Personally never tryed it on top but i plan on it.

Just think of wayys but make sure your protected.

Best Of Luck**

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A reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2007):

hiya hunni i'm 15 as well and i know how u feel i thought the same way wen i did it it took me weeks 2 do it again i was scared 2 ask him wat he thinks and then i didn't do it cos well i was sick of just lying there he thought i wen off him and we broke up then he came 2 me 3 weeks after we split wanting 2 know if i still loved him and he explained why he finshed it u don't want that 2 happen with ur guy hun so just pick up the courage and say it 2 him and see wat happens if he loves you and u love him then just be happy and enjoy it and try on top hun i swear it 2 die 4

hope that helped hun

be safe xxx

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2007):

ok i am 14 and i had sex with my bf of 8 months for the firdt time it was great and after a while i jsut found myself laying there ok thiz is wat to do kiss him softly and make him sit and get on top of him and start humping =] thiz feals great and u will both be doing something =/

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2007):

well touch and kiss him and that will make it better for him trust me it did for me. also try different positions every once in a while

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2007):

reach down and lightly stroke your male parteners testicles. use plenty lubrication when first starting out with sex. as your man thrusts into you meet him half way by trying to push yourself onto his penis as well as him pushing it into you.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2007):

what can I do to make sex a hell of a lot more pleasurable/

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A female reader, xkimx United Kingdom +, writes (27 February 2007):

xkimx agony auntlisten this girl is asking you's a question not to give her a lecture on her age im shore u done worse things ,i know i have , as long as you no to be safe and prepared because i was 15 and i slept with 4 people i dnt no why , try it on top work your body backwards and forwards , or try both of you stting up sit on top on him and opush yourself up and down push his head into uyour tits aswell thats a turnon for both of u lol , when yor giving a blow job act like your putting liopstick on with his dick pt it as far down you throat pull it in and out and suck lightly

hope that help and goodluck be careful

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2007):

Hay hun, theres lots of things you can do. I have had sex many times befor i just turned 16. And i started dating my new boyfriend on january 17,07 and we have been dating for 1 month and 4 days. We just had sex on feb 15,07. and ohhh my god it was the best sex ever. You can move around make out with him during sex and if you get bord get on top you will have so much fun on top. you can do what ever you want when ur on the top. so if you have anymore questions just write back. ~laura~

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2006):

Alright let me just begin by saying that, MY reply is going to be the most useful one. At least Im down to earth about this stuff . . will I judge you? no. Will I answer your question? Yes. I'm 18 years old, I lost my virginity at a young age as well . . & the only reason these people are lecturing you, is because as you get older you begin to forget what 15 acctually felt like. 15 isen't THAT young when you look at it in terms of maturity & such. ANYWAY! heres the first thing , ALWAYS use protection , 2 Methods! that means use birth control & condoms! because condoms arent always 100% effective. Its a scairy feeling when the sex is over with and you find that the condom, isent where it should be; or that its broken. So always have a backup. I would say use "the pill" is probably best method for you at your age. Second thing, make sure your not having sex with EVERY guy you come across, Yes its unhealthy, but also you dont want to be seen as being a "slut". Reputation means a lot. & guys dont like easy girls. Remember "guys want what they cant have". Ok, so alright you want to please him? your already going about this the wrong way. When its a guy, getting off isent that hard. Its a guranteed thing for a male. Do what makes you feel good! but with that, keep him interested as well. Can you dance? Give him a little dance ;) , oral sex is also a good idea. BUT if you give it, EXPECT it in return. . 69 is a good possition to gurantee that. You know, nobody can really answer this question for sure. You should ask your partner. If your not comfortable asking him these kind of questions, than your clearly not ready. Hope I helped you out doll.

xoxo

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2006):

Stop Lecturing,

Everyone knows its a young age,

But if shes using protection and the guy aint using her,

then Help her out insted of Telln her shes too young.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2006):

I am also 15!

I've had sex and lots of experience.

We are very unlucky ay, guys get all good stuff, most things will pleasure them, just having themselves inside you is good for them.

So go crazy and do whatever the hell is best for you!

Or mix it up and you can get ontop, try different possitions or in different places.

If you get bored (yea it happens) but you don't want to dissapoint him, then take it out and give him a blowjob and/or a handjob and he won't mind, he'll be amazed I'm sure.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2006):

Listen reguardless of your opinion this girl is not going to stop because of it. So stop trying to scare her and whatnot, I'm fifteen as well I literally lost my virginity like 3 months ago the only thing I've got to say on whether it's ok is just make sure you know what to do if a mistake happens and make sure you use a condom... In reguards to making sex better for the guy, if your in love there seriously is nothing like making love to someone, it just feels better its slow and amazing but if you're just talking about fucking not only get on top but sit up straddling him of course so this way while sex you not only have the most control over movement and HE gets to relax you can also move his hands about all over you (i swear that this will turn him on even more) and he also gets full view lol. Ive only had sex with one guy so my experience may be lacking, but we're in love and that made even the painful experience of losing my virginity to him special and yes even fun.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2006):

Your too young to know what you want yet..and if you can't take on the responsabilies of sex then you shouldn't be having sex. Not to tick you off, but I just want to save you the trouble this could bring you. Besides at your age you should be playing hard to get. And foreplay is more fun that sex at 15 anyways.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2006):

Try being the one on top..Then you have all the control...just try it and you'll see what I mean :)

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2006):

you are not ready

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2006):

Hi

Guy here, so perhaps little I can help with, suffice to say just go with it. From blokes' point of view, there just is nothing like "bad sex" tho sometimes there is great sex!

I merely wish to write in reply to the replies you have received: CONTRACEPTION.

I'm 26 and have never had unprotected sex. I have never known anybody contract the diseases of which you write when using a condom. And I mean a condom; there is no excuse for a guy not to.

On the 15 point, sure, it is perhaps a little young. But not wrong. Again, sure ideally would be "a loving relationship" but let's face it, it only is til ends so what difference is there in reality tween one night and 50 years? I would hope that society has advanced these days sufficiently to the extent that we do not regard sex as a bad thing: It is however when forced upon someone or when people do not recognise and take protection against the potentially life-altering consequences it can bring.

So, in response, do what makes you enjoy it most, and, if you stay with this guy, ASK HIM. We're terrible at reading the obivious signals you give us, so when it comes to something we have no real idea about, we need to be taught! And don't worry; if you appear confident, a guy will convinence himself it was good!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2005):

i had the exact same issue as you. and i can tell u from experience now that u need to stop thinking about what to do and just do it. absolutely anything will work, its all about what u think is comfortable. another tip, if u can dance u will be fine... :)

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2005):

i know this isnt probably what you want to here but its not always about what you want....its about what you need. I started having sex too at 15, pregnant at 16, baby at 17, and now at 19 years old i have a 2 year old. Its alot of resposibility. Why would you risk changing your entire life for a guy that in the end probably wont be there? I got my ged when i was 16... i missed out on alot. I never got to be a senior, or go to prom...and to this day i have never gone to a party. Granted i was one of the lucky ones and my man stayed with me and now im married...but that is just another "kid" to take care of. Granted i love my son and my husband with all my heart not alot of 16 year olds dream of the kind of life i took on.

i wake up at 4:30 and dont get to go to sleep until my bubba decides hes ready to go to sleep. u r too young to have to work your life around n e one elses. please take care of urself....take some more time to grow up!!!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2005):

im 17 and i know exactly how you feel. lol i was 15 when i lost my verginity and i had no flippin clue what i was doing i after me and my boyfriend broke up i didnt have sex for almost 6 months and than when i started dating a new guys he wanted me to be on top and i had never dont that before... turns out i was really good at it lol really the only thing that i can say is just go with his body movements just feel where hes going with it and kinda goes from instinked there and try diff positions that helps alot and in fact im back with the guy i lost my verginity to and our sex is just the best its ever been when i was on top the first time with him he acually got off with me being on top and hes never done taht with his last gf so you never know until you try diff things just try diff things and if you havent been on top try that it might acually work out for you

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2005):

you are probably fed up of everyone telling you that you are too young to be having sex, but im afraid i have to agree. im 19 and first had sex just after my 16th birthday. You haven't mentioned anything about love in your relationship but if this bloke really cares for you he will wait untill you are emotionally and physically old enough! I fell pregnant after the first time i had sex and even though i believed my boyfriend loved me, we broke up. Im 19 and have a 3 yr old daughter, even though i love her to pieces i cant help wondering what my life would have been like and i feel like i missed out on a huge part of growing up. Apart from the obvious concequence of getting pregnant there are also STD's and cancer to think about!

take care! x x x

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2005):

I'm sorry I am the same age as you and I'm having sex I've been with a stable boyfriend and the realationship is get I feel everyone going "you're too young to have sex and its too risky blah blah blah" you need to leave her alone if you weren't going to answer her question then why are you writing to her? That's for her mother to tell her.

Honey if you want to turn a guy on first, find out his favorite color then wear sexy panties in that color to turn him on. Then slowly take off his clothes and crawl on top of him feeling on him. Once his clothes are off start feeling and sucking on him. Be carefull not to be too aggressive. I hope this helped and honey if your going to have sex, and your sure it's the right decision make sure you do it as safe as possible.

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A female reader, Alison111 +, writes (8 July 2005):

You know that you are breaking the law - perhaps that triggers unexplored emmotions like being under age - to know that making love is not an in thing - but a chemistry you have yet to feel. Pleasuring is for both sexes which you'll want when you stop pleasing others and love yourself. Takes all ages above the legal age to feel comfortable with ourselves.

Take Good Care

Alison

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A female reader, mermaidprincess +, writes (6 July 2005):

Reading this, i kept wanting to hear about a steady boyfriend or how you've asked you're boyfriend what he wants. Everyone keeps saying stuff about all these diseases and cancers, and it's true, but I know a girl as young as you doesn't care.

I am 16, and I started having sex when I was a legal age, that doesn't mean it's right though. I have only had sex with one guy, I don't regret it yet, but if we were to break up I know I would.

I'll tell you about the bad stuff you WILL care about. Having sex with 2 guys increases your risk for cervical cancer (like said before) do you know you could DIE from that? It could make you not able to have children, I mean a few minutes of pleasure for you is that worth your life? I know you aren't doing it to see the guy happy cause you want to know what to do so obviously you aren't pleasuring him. Go get a toy or something for yourself, wait until you are ready to have sex again. and please, go get checked for diseases and everything while you may still be able to cure them. when the right guy comes, you will know, and you won't have to rush.

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A female reader, liligray +, writes (6 July 2005):

I agree that you are too young to be having sex. I had sex just after my 16th but I was also in love with this guy and stayed with him for nearly 3 years. When you love someone you will now how to move with him, know what he likes and will enjoy it all the more, be a kid for a bit longer, soon you can have all the sex you want.

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A reader, chickypea2005 +, writes (26 June 2005):

I refuse to give you any advice, you are only a child at the moment (15 is under 18) HAven't you heard about all the horrible diseases out there like chlyamdia, gonnorhea, herpes (you have this for life) and the really bad one HIV. Don't have sex until you fully understand and with someone you really care for and trust, then you will know what to do and your will get to experiment without feeling uncomfortable. xxx

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A reader, sereika +, writes (11 June 2005):

You are 15, and having sex?

The reason I chose to answer your question is because I know that what you are doing is wrong, and I have been in that position myself.

I am sure you have heard of cervical cancer. Look at it this way, a few years from now, God forbid, you are diagnosed with cervical cancer. Why? Because you started to have sex an early age. Where is this guy that had lay on top of you and caused this life threatening damage to your body? Where are these men when you need the help and the attention, not to mention the comfort at a time as such. They are the ones of course, that helped you to get sick, I am sure they should be there for you to get treatment.

Honey what I am trying to say is, you are too young for sex. This is the reason also you do not know what to do during sex. You are not ready for sex. You are ready for an education, but not sex. These boys might show you love, and make you feel special and wanted, but that is only to get into your panties.

Try talking to them and not having sex with them, period. And see how they treat you. Please I beg you to focus on your education and take your mind off sex. You are not ready for sex. This is why you do not know how to do your thing. Forget about sex for now. It is not your time yet. At school it might sound cool and all. Yeah! I'm having sex, I'm a woman, I'm accepted in school! No honey, that is not they way to go about it. Those girls who saying they having sex and they the women of the school. They fit in and they are the popular girls. Yes they might get their fame now, but give them nine months to three years. Who is not pregnant got three kids with three different babyfathers and so on. You do not want to get caught in that web. Society looks down on women as such. Let them have their fun. Three years from now, you will be in college pursuing the career of your dreams. Ten years from now, you will have your dream home, your dream car, your dream career, and your dream family. They will be living off welfare.

It is up to you to choose your road. And yes honey, sex causes that drastic change in a woman's life.

Be Good.

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A reader, communicatrix +, writes (11 June 2005):

communicatrix agony auntYou're pretty young, so you probably haven't heard J.P. Morgan's reply to a reporter inquiring after the cost of his yacht: "If you have to ask, you can't afford it."

I'm hoping that your partner is about your age, and not an older boy or man taking advantage of a younger girl's naivete and good intentions. You've mentioned nothing about love, but I think love--or some variation on the theme, like intimacy or trust or such--comes into play here.

Do you love your partner? Or at least, do you really, really like him? At the risk of sounding hopelessly ancient and prude, I think you ought to be able to bring up your desires and concerns with your partner.

If this person really likes and respects you, he'll be happy to guide you gently into the great, beautiful world that is sexual intimacy.

If not...well, I hate to say it, but maybe he isn't the person you should be learning from.

And no matter what *he* is, if you're not comfortable talking to him about stuff like this, I can almost guarantee that you're going at all this a bit young. (15 *is* very young, if the other replies haven't tipped you off!)

Personally, I waited until the ripe old age of 19 before jumping into the pool, and I had a lovely partner who was very good and understanding about the initiation (and subsequent lessons!) It's not too much to ask; it's what you *should* be asking for.

Be brave! Good luck...

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A reader, paigerson +, writes (11 June 2005):

first of all sweety, i am 16 and i lost it at a young age, 13 okay, you dont need to have sex at a young age, the guy i lost it to, well we went out for 3 years and i thought i was doing the right thing, but if you think about it you start having sex at a young age, well what will be left for your husband? i dont think he'll want to sleep with that! anyways, sorry i will not give you information because i think that your too young, take this advice from someone who is your age gurl!!! stop now while your ahead.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2005):

Dear 5th June

I am english girl that has grown up with the problem of having sex too young (it screws your mind!), do not throw away what will probably be the most pleasurable experience in your life when you reach the age to appreciate it.

Kind Regards

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A reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2005):

i think this is because youre not emotionally ready for this. you are only 15 and this is a very young age to be having sex. wait till you find a guy who you really love and then things will come naturally and he will tell you what he likes, dislikes (etc.) but for now, i think you shud just stick to kissing when it comes to lads.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2005):

first relax him by touching him all over and then toss him off he will get horny,then get his hand and make him touch you then start having sex with him and he will already be horny even if he doesnt get plesure from sex!!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2005):

Hey - you just need to try and respond to his movements - as he moves into you push yourself to him from your hips. Maybe experiment with differnt positions and some you may find easier to respond to. Be careful though - i know i sound like a bore - but you are 15 - you dont have to have sex with anyone - make sure its worth it.

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A reader, Cutie_Mish +, writes (4 June 2005):

you're a bit young to be having sex aren't you, if you really want to know more, either wait till you're older and ask again or look it up on a site, i'm sure no1 is prepared to tell an underage girl how to pleasure a guy! sorry xXx

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A reader, Shane +, writes (4 June 2005):

Hey there,

Alright, firstly, you really need to think about having sex at so young an age. I know I'm probably sounding like your mother here, but it is a fairly big thing. I don't know you, and you may be of above average maturity for your age, but generally sex at 15 is slightly dodgey!

If you do persist, there are a few small things you can do. Firstly, sex isn't all about intercourse. To be blunt, there's plenty of other things you can do together that do not involve actual sex. There are many sites on the web that deal with these sorts of questions, try searching under "sex info" for starters. But basically, a quick way to spice things up is to take the initiave. All this means is doing things to him instead of vice versa. Most guys find this incredibably nice! It shows that you are getting into it and are enjoying yourself, and also gives us a break. Sexually, a different position can make all the difference. Get on top every now and again. As to how to move, there is no wrong way. The sites will be able to help you more than I here, but generally just do whatever feels good. And don't worry about him, there's not much that can stop us enjoying ourselves during sex!

Hope this helps, and seriously, think carefully about your readiness to have sex before you do it again. There's no shame in wanting to wait, it even in some circumstances can increase your sex appeal.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2005):

FIFTEEN? I am sorry I cannot give you advice on this. I don't believe you're old or mature enough to handle all the possible outcomes that could result from you having sex at your age. If you insist on asking questions please go ask your mother.

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