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*ritney12
writes:Ok so there is this guy we have been friends for about 8 years, he has always seemed to like me, then all of a sudden i started to have feelings for him, so we started talking more ect he said he liked me and i told him the same, then we slept together and since then he has not spoke to me replyed to my texts nothing, i dont think i done anything after to be to clingy i just sent some messages saying what is happening, i need help i dont no what to do??
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (15 August 2013):
 Hold on a second -- before we go straight to the "delete him out of your life", you didn't add some very important information here:
1. How long ago did you sleep together? Was it a couple of days ago, or haven't you spoken for 2 weeks? If this was a couple of days ago, then deleting might be hasty.
2. Why are you relying on TEXTING as your only source of communication in the first place? Did you not have sex in person? Why not call or go see him?
See him in person before deleting him. The other aunts may be right in the end in which case he's done. Otherwise, he may just be feeling awkward and may need a couple of days. Due to your lack of information, it's hard to tell.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (15 August 2013):
 Got Issues is correct. This is classic "guy" behaviour... wherein, we are "friends" with some girl.... we bide our time... then we get her to put out... and, after that, we ignore her........
Chalk this up to an unpleasant eye-opening about this guy's morals, standards and sensibilities... and steer clear of him (and others like him!) from now until.... forever....
Sorry, and good luck in the future....
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reader, Got Issues  +, writes (15 August 2013):
 Unfortunately you can never know how a guy is going to react after sleeping together until it's done. I'm not one of those people who think you have to have dated for 6 months before you can even consider sleeping together, because if someone can be a bastard after a week they can be a bastard after 6 months. However, I think that you need to have more of a base than just telling each other you like each other. There are no promises there. It doesn't really mean anything.
Maybe he thinks you put out too easily (double standards I know but a lot of people think like this), maybe he realised he didn't feel the things he thought he felt, maybe your texts did come across as clingy and he thought you were trying to have a relationship with him, maybe maybe maybe. The reason is actually irrelevant. You need to chalk this down to a mistake and get over it for your own sake. It hurts to be rejected in this way, but there's nothing you can do.
The friendship is over. Delete his contact details. Focus on your other friends instead. You have no choice but to pick yourself up, dust yourself off and get on with life.
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