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anonymous
writes:Here it is!My girlfriend and i have been together for two yrs. She has no job, no car, and depends on me for her children's appointment s or shopping and the like. I have no problem helping her as she had let me stay with her in the begining of our relationship. She helped me with my children when i went to work and never asked for any thing. Here it is two yrs later. And we go months with out talking intimacy is non existent. And basically i get depressed because when i need someone to talk to she's not really there. And we both have no parents or family support. I just take her to the kids dr. Appointments just to see them. She got mad at me because i look unhappy infront of her kids. I am co dependant and it is hard for me to walk away. I'm not really sure What I'm looking for,but any advice would help. Thanks
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reader, Honest-Lu  +, writes (18 February 2016):
I think you need to man up. What if it was the other way round? You in your 30’s this is what happens when you’re in a relationship you do things for each other. You never know you might come out of a job and she might have to support you. Im sorry but you need to get a grip! There was a time i was out of a job and my h2b supported me because that what people do when you’re in a relationship. Speak to her tell her that you feel like maybe she is taking abit of an advantage and its getting too much. She might back off abit!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2016): Just because she did you a favour once doesn't mean you owe her forever. You sound like you have a busy life with work and your kids and her kids. Do you have time to think about what you want? It's not selfish to look after yourself and your own needs too.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (17 February 2016):
 I am not really sure what it is you are looking for either. But it is clear that you are unhappy at the moment. Do you feel like she is taking you for granted? I am well aware it is difficult to be out working all day, but from her point of view she is working at home bringing up her children.
There is a lot of pressure on you in this two year relationship. The thing you are both not doing is communicating. You need to talk about how you feel. If there is no intimacy left in the relationship then you both need to work hard on getting back what you have lost.
Is couples therapy an option? If your woman wont talk to you then you may need professional help to sort out the problems.
You both need time for yourselves. Without the children. A date night once a week. If money is tight then have a home cooked meal, a drink or two and watch a movie. Talk about your week. Be intimate. You need to make time for a relationship to work.
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