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*uikslver39
writes:So my ex and I had been dating for a year. We broke up on Halloween and still talked/hooked up for about a month. At the end of that month we had a big fight and immediately following she started sleeping around....a lot. Multiple guys per week, some in their 40's. (She is 21). It really hurt when she slept with an old friend of mine...on an air mattress. I found out also that this was not anything new to her. Before we met, she had slept around a lot and went home with sketchy guys (in their 40's) on motorcycles in foreign countries. I did not know any of this while we were together, so this was all a big shock to me.She has a new boyfriend now, who she met on an online dating site. Is it an act of desperation? I don't know. From what other people tell me, he's unattractive, a little overweight, and completely whipped by her. We've been broken up for about 3 months. I can't tell if she has really moved on, or if she is trying to fill some void.She said she really loved me, and she broke up with me because we were long distance (I was going to move to Europe for a year) Her friends said she cried for weeks over me.Needless to say, I have no sympathy for her and I KNOW she is not the one for me. But, she was my first girlfriend and I really loved her so it still stings. I'm trying to find the best way to move on and forget about it. We have a lot of mutual friends, so we are bound to run into each other soon.
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reader, quikslver39 +, writes (18 March 2011):
quikslver39 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThat's true. I've been good at keeping her out of my life, however I know that I will be seeing her soon (mutual friends birthday).
I don't know how I should handle myself around her. I know I should take the high road and be "nice" to her and ask her if she is doing well, but at the same time I really want to make it known to her that I do not want anything to do with her, and that I am unaffected by what she does with her life. (Even though it stings a little)Ignoring her just seems immature.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (14 March 2011):
 What she does with her life is irrelevant now. Some people get destroyed and refused to go into a relationship for years, some people sleep around. Knowing about her sexual lifestyle is not really helping you move on.
People move on when they feel the relationship is over for good, and clearly know the reasons for a break up. If it's real love what's one year of separation? A person in a relationship can still feel a void when they are not fulfilled themselves. You are not the cause of her suffering. She is doing it to herself. Be happy and move on.
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