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writes:Hi! Ive been dating this guy for a while now. and every things fine when where hanging with some friends.. but when where alone there is just this awkward silence.My mind goes black and i cant figure out something to say.And sometimes just scared of ending up looking like a total dork because i said the wrong thing.What should i do?? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2007): It is o.k. to be quiet, you learn this as you get older. Many people are uncomfortable in silence, like they have to fill a void, if this guy likes you he will feel good just being with you and he probably feels pressure to talk as well. You could just ask him....do you feel uncomfortable if I don't talk about something?When you are out with him, make mental notes about things he likes and do some research on the net so you can talk about these things. Also, make sure you have an interest in something as well. If you have to, take index cards when you are alone and write things to talk about. You can go in the bathroom and read it. Good luck.
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reader, Lila  +, writes (17 October 2007):
 If I can't think of anything to say I talk about movies,everybody has seen at least of couple of them. He's probably seen Transformers,Brave Heart,and Final Destination ask him.
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reader, dapone 1  +, writes (17 October 2007):
 hi
it is strange how some people can talk to each other in a crowd,but find it harder on a one to one basis,i think you are trying to hard that is why your mind goes blank, you must have a fear of saying the wrong thing, but if that is the case why is your boyfriend not starting the conversation, may be it is because you are both a little shy,i would not worry about this situation because you both have a lot to learn about each other,it does not matter what either of you say but one of you must start talking soon, because relationships rely on communication,no matter what ever happens in your life if you can communicate then you will find you can solve a lot of problems, maybe you should say the first thing that comes into your head,then your bf will respond.
i hope this will help
good luck
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (17 October 2007):
Tell him some of the things you did in the last couple of days. Talk about a school assignment. Ask him about what he has done recently.
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