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writes:ive just recently found out im pregnant and cannot wait to tell everybody!!somehoe - unbeknown to me I am already 15 weeks gone....but also its past the 12 week safe mark which means me and my hubby can tell people.what is bothering me is...my hubby works away, he went away 2 days ago...and since I have found out I am pregnant and how far along I am.now he is going to be away for 6 weeks....but we do not want to tell anybody (even close family) that were having a baby until he is home. we really want to be together to tell everyone.but on the same note I do not want to be alone in going to any appointments :(what do we do?and how am I going to keep such great news quiet for 6 weeks!!its easy for him as hes away and can only talk briefly on the phone and email.. but I am going to be spending a lot of time with both our familys. how do I keep this quietwhat excuses can I use for not drinking that will last 6 weeks (theres a few birthdays coming up and I love a glass of wine) Reply to this Question
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (29 March 2014):
 I am not sure I understand abot the appointments.
If you mean the second pregnancy scan ( the first, either you had it already, or you 'll skip it, since they do it at 12-13 weeks ) it is scheduled between week 18 and week 21, you can time it to have it done as soon as yout husband is back. The rest will be just a normal OB / GYN check up, I don't think that you normally bring along your husband while you are being visited by your OB / GYN ? ...
As for the drinks, say you are on a diet and you won't drink because alcohol has a lot of calories ( which is true, unluckily ).
Or, make it simpler : tell your husband that you are so excited that you are bursting with the urge to tell somebody. Ask him to be generous, and to release you from this vow of silence. He can always get cheers and congrats on his own when he comes back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2014): Ask him can u tell one close trustworthy friend or sibling so u have someone to go to the appointments with?? Maybe for the drink thing you can tell people you've started to gain weight and your going on a strict diet that includes no alcohol! That will last you out the six weeks and will stand up for you when you start getting baby bump etc
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2014): First things first- CONGRATULATIONS :)
Crazy idea I know but you could always see if you could video call with your husband while he's away and your at appointments- I'm not sure how the doctor would feel but if you explained the situation thats definetely a possibility!
Did your families know you were trying for a baby? If so the signs will probably be there even if you are making excuses for not drinking! However excuses could be that your working early the next day, your tired and still have to drive or if you want a really obvious one that you don't fancy drinking tonight :) Lets just hope theres not too many birthdays coming up!!!
And also a best friend or three is an amazing thing to have right now- if you have one definetely use him/her to your advantage! Get them to come with you to the doctors so you have that mutual support- I know the first appointment can seem a bit scary and having the extra person really does help!
Hope this helps :) Ginge x
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