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writes: I am a Team Manager in a call centre type office. I work very closely with another Team Manager and lately have been seeing him in a different way. I have always been close with him as the nature of the job means we spend alot of time together in the office. He has just split up from a 2 yr relationship, his choice, and someone in the office 'noted' that the two of us were now single. Since that point I have looked at him differently and now really like him, to the point where I cannot stop thinking about him. There has been those certain looks and caring affection between us. Our boss even made a comment about a possible attraction between us!! Can others see it too? I get the feeling that he likes me too but made it clear months ago (before all this) that he wouldnt have another work relationship as he ex ex worked there too. We have been texting eachother out of work but last night I said that I liked him, drunken comment but a true one and he just said he was flattered. I texted him this morning to apologise from my drunkeness and said I get a little to confident when drunk so I kind of laughed it off. I got no response. What would you guys do in this situation? I have had a work relationship before and was careless in the fact that everyone knew my business but then that was before I was a manager. We seriously work close together so this could be very detremental. What do you reckon? I cant just blurt this out to him and for him to reject me as it is not a normal rejection, being so close at work everyday. Help! Any advice would be gratefully received!!!
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reader, Toria +, writes (16 October 2006):
 I use to work with my ex and that's how we met, it was great, we didn't leave one another to go to work because we went together, we saw loads of each other shared so many interests due to being in the same line of work.
If you are going to pursue this you need to make sure that if anything goes wrong you won't let it interfer in your job and you both understand that work is work and play is play.
The only problem I ever hit by working together is we shared the same friends which was great but sometimes I just wanted a friend that was just mine and I knew I could trust 100% by them not being a friend of his as well and the other problem was when I left where we worked it really hit us hard that we went separate ways to work and really missed not seeing it other the way we always had.
Go for it you've got nothing to lose from this.
Good luck :o)
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2006): I have to say that the closest relationship I've ever seen is between two people I work with. They've been married for over a year and still act like they've just met. Work relationships can work, and it sounds like this could be one of them. If you're not comfortable with being forward about how you feel, don't do anything and time will do all the work for you. You'll see him at work like you always have, and before you know it, you could find yourself kissing him. The way you've described it, you like him and he likes you. So why not go for it? Just because he said that he never wanted a work relationship doesn't mean he will never change his mind. It's like trying a food and not liking it. Then you try it again and you find that you really like it. People change, he might be ready for a relationship by now.
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