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writes:We plan on getting married someday he doesn't want kids and I want a big family and always have! How can we make this work? Reply to this Question
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (26 February 2009):
Sometimes although you love someone, something comes up like this and you realise that although you want to be with them, it will never work long term.
I met a few guys who I knew I could very easily fall for but I knew it would end in tears.
Although it will be very very hard, I think you need to tell him that you are not going to be happy in life without that big family so that although you are happy with him for now, you are never going to marry him.
If a job comes up in another city, or either of you meets someone else then you will be free to split up and make your way in the world knowing that.
I think it will not be a very nice conversation to have but you will find yourself much happier and it will be easier to move on once you have sorted it out once and for all.
You are not getting any younger so if you want to start that family then you need to be saving for a BIG housing deposit, (big families don't come cheap) and getting out there to try and meet your perfect guy asap.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, SugarCookie  +, writes (26 February 2009):
I think that that is a great reason not to get married. Its not fair of either of you to change the other. Its not he lied and married you then said he didn't want kids. He is saying i dont want kids take it or leave it and if you want kids you have to leave. Sorry but that is the blunt honest truth.
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