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writes:well i m a 19 year old girl who met a guy around 5 months bck he is married and with 2 kids i m married too but dont have kids. we love each other like crazy cant live without talking to each other even for a day. he is the manager of a different company in the same group and i am a sales co-ordinator in a different company. please advise. we cant live without each other Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionits different now. My husband has filed for a divorce for the sake of doing ithe drinks beats me doesnt bother to care for a single thing. and this person whom i love his wife has walked out many times and left the kids with him. he is the best dad ever a child can get and this not only me but everyone around him say . he has always been pushy to live with me and leave his wife but i have been the one to let him stay with his family. Since now i have been going to court regarding my divorce he wants to abandon his wife and marry me. the kids are ofcourse going to live with us. please advise again...anxiously waiting !
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reader, angelblueeyes  +, writes (16 April 2008):
 Hi,
Firtly i agree with liltinky24 but i have to say I have done this also, I met my husband at 16yrs, i married him at 20yrs and i had my daughter at 22yr my life was dull and boring(or what i thought) i too had a thing going with another man that i worked with, i found the whole situation exciting and fun i thought it was great and i loved him,
The point being i was going to leave the life i had with my husband & my daughter for this other man but i couldnt when the time came to make the change it wasn't fun anymore i didn't like the situation i had put myself in, i realised how much i loved my husband and my daughter & how very stupid i had been, Now when i look back i realise that it was the attention that i liked he paid me loads of compliments & he was always interested in me, i'm not saying that this is the same as your situation but be careful remember he married her for a reason, he has kids also and thats not easy to walk away from!!
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (16 April 2008):
 FATAL ATTRACTIONS!
You may think that you both cannot live without each other.
Love is blind.
Most married man will not leave their wife or their children.
In your country and if you are a Muslim,
it can land you in big trouble to carry on this affair.
In your religion , a man is allowed to marry four wives
but I am not sure how the law is implemented there.
If you really love each other, then you should go about it in the legal way.
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reader, liltinky24 +, writes (16 April 2008):
Hi, the fact that you got married to someone means that you made the comittment and felt that you 'could not live without him' Its only fair that you keep your faith towards him.
What you are feeling towards this man is simply intense attraction not 'love' at all. The fact that he has two kids and is married say alot about the man he is. What you need to do is put yourself in the position of the wife of this man. Her family will be ruined and shes going to have to support two kids by herself. do you want to be the one that makes that happen?
The fact that your 19 shows that you werent that matured when you got married. Your probably now thinking its a quick desicion. What you need to do is stay awya from this man for a while. try to cool things off and get back to the real world. the reality of this is hes looking for a younger gilr to spice up his life. Its only a matter of time before he leavse you for another young girl.
You also need to look at your husbands poitn of veiw, he obviously doesnt have a clue and must really trust you. I'm sure you have alot of respect for him. why would you hurt him?
the sensible and right thing to do would be to stay away from this man. ANy man willing to destroy the faith his children and wife have in him for a twenty minute joy is not a man you should be thinking of comitting to at all. He most probably doesnt have the same idea as you do. So my advice would be to steer clear from him and try to get your life on track
best of luck hope things go well!!
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