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writes:I've been dating a woman for over 8 months and have fallen in love with her. She tells me she loves me too. But last week she told me she doesn't see a future between us. I have a young child and she has grown children. She says she doesn't want to raise another child. She says she doesn't want to lose me, but thinks that it would be best if we just go our separate ways before anyone gets hurt. I would hurt if I lose her. She's going on vacation for 10 days with her family starting this weekend. I told her to spend some time thinking about what's important in her life while she's gone. I also gave her a copy of "The Notebook" to read on her flight. It's hard to change someone's mind. Is there anything I can do at this point, or is walking away my only option? Reply to this Question |
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 well now shes going away on vacation for 10 days that normally makes people realise how much they actually do miss you and how much you mean to them so that might possibly change her mind. considering this is the first time shes been in a ralationship where her partners has a child off some body else it is going to be hard to deal with at first especially the child be young. the advice i would give you is talk to her and tell her you understand how hard it must be being in the situation of beingwith someone while they have a young child of somebody else and you understand shes never been in that situation before but you dont want her to raise your child or you want is her to be with you because when you are with her she makes you the happiest man on earth and that you are the luckiest man alive for haveing her. walking away is not your only option here communication is you need to tell her she is not playing step mommy role she is being your girlfriend! and also give it time she will be ok with you haveing a child but its only been 8months so of course it will be hard for a while but it will get easier for her to cope with in the end.
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