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writes:Hello,My boyfriend and I will have been together for 2 years on August 18th. Tonight, he told he that he loves me, but he's not IN LOVE with me anymore... yet he claims he still wants to be with me, and try to work things out. This is his first serious long relationship, so I was thinking maybe he's confusing infatuation with being in love.I really truly don't know what to do. I suppose I'm in the same situation as he is... I love him, but maybe not in love.. I really had high hopes for this relationship.. His family really adores me, and he's been a really good boyfriend for the most part. I don't know if I should just end the relationship now... or see how it plays out. It breaks my heart to think of a break up, but at the same time I am only 24 years old, and still figuring out who I am. I don't want to prolong the break up if it's just going to happen eventually because it's hurting me too much. I would greatly appreciate any advice.Thanks!
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (1 August 2007):
 You have both come to the same conclusion at almost the same time. The split seems like it will be amicable to say the least. I think you should both move on and just remain friends. You are both young and should neither one settle for a luke-warm relationship at your age. You're actually quite lucky as you both feel the same way. No one really gets hurt here. It may seem scarey at first, because you're used to seeing yourself with someone, rather than going it alone, but it'll be good for your soul in the long run and give you the chance to really find someone who turns you on.
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reader, Courtney_ann +, writes (1 August 2007):
 Everybody is different, but.....
I heard this 2 1/2 years into a 5 year relationship, and I regret prolonging what was enevitable. We ended up breaking up on REALLY bad terms. It was hard for me to admit it was over because I was very close to his family, everyone thought we were going to get married, and it felt like admitting defeat. Now, I am bitter for years that were horrible (always fighting) in my early twenties. Do whatever your gut tells you- it is probably right.
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