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writes: I'm a 18 year old girl and I’m fairly shy and wary of guys coz of the way I’ve been treated in the past.I’ve been single for 3 years now and I think its about time I found someone who’ll treat me right.I met this guy Bruce (23) thro one of my closest male friends around 2 months ago now. my friend (martin) invited Bruce up to my house (along with a few other people) for a few drink (about a month ago).Me and Bruce ended up cuddling and holding hands.About a week after that me and Martin were visiting Bruce and Bruce and I ended up almost having sex.Ano that was a really bad idea and I totally regret that now =/Two weeks ago I told Martin about Bruce and I, and told him I liked Bruce.Martin spoke to Bruce and said something along the lines of ‘she likes u, if u like her do what ever u want but if u don’t stay away from her’Just after that conversation Burse walked up to me and kissed me.But it was away from everyone else witch made me think that he doesn’t want anyone seeing us together.I just really don’t know what to think, he’s apparently a very nice guy but I find him hard to read but I get the impression off him that he likes being single but I also know he really likes me.I’m waaaaaaaaay too shy to talk to him (as u can imagine I don’t have a whole loada confidence when it comes to guys)But I’m so totally confused I really don’t know where I stand =S and it would be really lovely to start a relationship with him.But that also gives me something else to worry about.What happens if I went out with him, it went all wrong, we ended up not talking.It would make things really difficult not just between him and me but me and Martin and Bruse and martin =/I also plain to move around that area in the next year or two. =/It also very rare for me to find someone who I like that likes me back =(Someone please help…am so lonely and this situation is making me wana tare my hair out.
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reader, mitch  +, writes (2 May 2007):
He kissed you in private - thats a good thing if anything! A first kiss is an intimate moment, its often best if its just you two, it makes it more special. Perhaps he was a little scared tho you might pull back aswell, that wouldn't be nice if it was infront of other people.
And your not too shy to talk to him - if you like him and he likes you, just take that first step and start a conversation and it will flow. given, nerves might get the better of you the first time, but he won't mind that! and after that it'll just become natural.
And i guess the problem of it all going wrong and changing what you've got now is the risk we all take on these things... I guess only you can decide if the possibility of having great between you two is worth that risk. But as a general ethos, I say yes its worth the risk, because in life if you don't risk anything, you always end up settling for second best, and miss the chance to be truely happy.
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