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writes:HiJust wondered..If you had dated someone a year, it didnt work out, you kept arguing, so you ended it, found out they lied about something (not cheating though)Ended up mates after a couple of months then drifted back together, after a couple more months of arguing, you split again. You dont trust them, know that you never will. And accet that might be myself, but the mistrust is still there, so wont work in my eyes. You end up as mates again, and do quite like them as mates, and all your kids get on well. No complications of a relationship. But they want to try AGAIN. But they say take it slow. How do you tell them you dont want it? I have stated this to them.They have said they think the world of you and will always be a mate and respect what i want, but their feelings aren't going away, they will always want more if they could, but not sex. Apparently i'm worth more than just that. But they say they are just worried i will meet someone else and they havent tried to get us back together by then, even though ive stated i dont want to meet anyone for the time being. Are there guys that are happy to just be mates?Where do i take it from here? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2008): What are mates?
is that like close friends?
it seems like the arguing is coming from some place other than problems, like you both want something other than that.
try it and tell him that this is the last try and you need to make like a scale or something..
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see what reasons you have to be with him and even it out. if it leans more on why not to be with him then break it off. if you decide you miss him make yourself stronger.
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