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Louisee92x
writes:Hello Guys, Girl of 15/16, I'm not a virgin but hey we all make mistakes. I've been seeing this lad, same age. lets say he's called Craig, well i really like him, but there are rumours going round that he only wants me to have the experience of havin a girlfriend and he wants to go for another girl after seeing what it's like with me, i don't belive this, well i don't want to. Because i know this girl is only close friends with him. i just know she is also the sort of girl to hurt me. i don't know why but shes like that.I want to try with him and he says he likes me, i jsut keep thinkin about all this hearsay going roudn and i really dont no whether to belive it. i really do like this lad. i want to try so bad but what do i do. Can i have some help. Thank You x Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2008): Rumors are gossip. Gossip is pure poison. Ask your boyfriend directly about this and when you do pay careful attention to his answer and his demeanor, his body language not just his words. Words can lie. Actions speak truth.
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reader, Annalisa +, writes (24 March 2008):
 If you save sex in a relationship with someone you know and love, you won't get used for experience and people won't insinuate you are the type to be used like that.
If you like this guy, get to know him better, go out, have fun, become friends and let your relationship develop naturally.
Talk, share views and feelings.
If you feel physical attraction for each other, kiss, hug.
Trust me, I've always put sex at the foremost of every relationship, but now that I'm married, I have learnt that the best sex is with someone you know will love you no matter what, who has supported you and will carry on doing so for as long as he's alive!
Making love with the knowledge and will that you might be making a baby is wanderful.
Out of marriage and in a new relationship sex can be fun and pleasant, but if it comes too soon in a relationship, you might end up geting too serious too soon, without even getting to know each other.
You have the constant worry of whether contraception will work, etc.
Next thing you know, you'll get to your wedding day with a history of failed relationships, clamydia, lots of experience in the sack, but none in actually living your life!
Don't worry about people talking behind your back.
If you have doubts, talk to your boyfriend and ask him how he feels. Learn to follow your instinct as well as your ears, to tell whether he's sincere.
Most of all, keep your sex life private, intimate, personal to you and your partner. That way, people won't have any ground to stand on, if they want to criticise it!
God bless you and good luck!
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reader, Ask oldersister  +, writes (24 March 2008):
 Just ask him. A rumor is just an uncomfirmed story like gossip and I would give more weight to what comes out of his mouth than someone else's. As long as his actions back up what he says, I don't see a problem unless you don't trust him and then you shouldn't be with him anyway.
If you can't talk to this guy about what's going on, it's not going to much of a relationship in the first place. Don't let what others say control your life and always go to the source.
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reader, Hope_123 + ♥, writes (24 March 2008):
 It's possible that he just wants experience, but you shouldn't believe stupid rumours that go round, that's what they're for.. Just to hurt people and turn others against them etc. So ignore the rumours and try and find out what craig is really like. You need to make the decision yourself and decide whether you think he's like that.
Good luck! Keep us posted.
xx Hope xx
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reader, LazyGuy  + ♥, writes (24 March 2008):
 People your age do a lot of stupid things that really hurt people. This includes such lovely things as dating on a bet and using people to get some XP.
It is only a rumour but is there anything in his behaviour to make you believe it?
Do you know if perhaps you have developed a reputation for being easy? He would after all hardly pick a difficult girl if he wants to quickly gain experience.
Sit yourself down and try to see the affair through the eyes of an outsider, how did he approach you, why did he approach you, has he made any significant commitments, how is he to this other girl, is he impatient with you to go further and further, does he respect it when you say no.
Still sometimes you just have to take a chance, sure, you could get your heart broken, but at least you will have tried.
Take a deep breath and decide if he is worth any tears that might follow.
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