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writes:please help! i went out in january for my birthday and met a guy through one of my friends i went to school with. we hit it off and have become friends - but we sleep together, he stays at my house every weekend and sometimes in the week. we dont have sex everytime were together, i didnt have feelings for him at first but they have developed and i dont know whether to tell him. i think they have developed as he will show affectionate, caring signs such as playing with my hair or my neck and compliments me. he had a bad break up from a girlfriend last summer and this is holding me back from telling him how i feel. i dont want to lose him as a friend because he is great, i could have a relationship with him but if i cant i want to remain friends. how can i tell him how i feel?? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2008): hi i have the same problem just the other way around.Sex always makes things complicated, doesn't matter what you.Keep in mind whether he is not using you as a rebound.Men are known to "transfer" affection from one loving relationship to another,that takes away a lot of the pain,because then they can focus their love to someone else.I think your option is to be as open as you can with him.If he really "loves" you and it is not based on physical things,he will respect your feelings and if you're lucky work out beneficial for the both of you. Hope this helps
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reader, Emmy-Lou +, writes (20 March 2008):
 Just come out and say it, if he doesn't feel the same way you can put it behind you and stay friends.
But it sounds like he wants to be more than friends if he's spending time round at your house and showing you signs of affection.
Hope this helps and good luck.
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