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male
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Me and my wife are ready to have sex, she's a virgin. So I try to be gentle, I try, she says her head starts to get pain, and I stop because I don't wanna hurt her. We have tried many times but every time to fail. I have tried many times but my penis do not go inside her vagina, and I see that there is very small opening. I also tried with my finger but every time I do this she stops me saying I cannot put inside my finger because its the nail of my finger hurting her. I have tried to foreplay her and then tried but this also doesn't work, KY jelly is not available at any drug store as the supply of the same is closed, I have tried coconut oil but that doesn't work either. I am really frustrated. It seems that something is different with her Vagina, although I have never seen any other vagina so I am not sure with this, I have seen the structure of the vagina by searching in Google but that really didn't helped me at all. Can somebody help me with this ?? She do not want to discuss this with anybody and take help from the experienced one, so I figure that I'll turn to the internet and anonymous strangers for help. Is there anything she or I can do to stop this unfortunate pattern?
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reader, serenity80  +, writes (10 October 2011):
Have you heard of Vaginismus?
Check it out here. Could this be the problem?
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vaginismus
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2011): When my husband and I got married last year, I was a virgin. At first the "sex" was really difficult. It hurt me like crazy and it took us weeks before his penis would even go half way in me!
We worked on it almost every day for months (and it took that long), until he could get it all the way in. It still hurt really bad for a few weeks to a month or 2 after that but it gradually got better, to the point where I actually started to enjoy it.
The process can be really difficult and frustrating for both people, just don't give up! We used a lot of lubricant and just did it a little at a time. Try working on it just a little bit several times a day, or as often as possible. I would notice that if we went several days without trying, it would be more difficult again.
Just remember to be gentle with her! The more gentle and thoughtful you are of her, the easier it will make it for her to relax.
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