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*chill1689
writes:ok, so me and my girlfriend have been dating for almost 11 months. we've been arguing alot lately and she says she isnt happy. we talked about our problems last friday and from then untill last wednesday(3 days ago), everything had been going fine...then thursday we started arguing again. everything we argue about is so stupid and small too. we never argue about anything important or serious. well yesterday we had a big arguement and she got all mad at me. she didnt talk to me for the rest of the day. well i called her this morning and we talked again and we decided to call it quits. but after a couple of hours of thinking about it, i cant do it. i called her back and she said she still loves me and that she still loved me too, but that she couldnt go on arguing like this. she said if i could think of another way to help our relationship then she would give it a try. i need some ideas. please help me, i love this woman to pieces.!!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2007): You both need to understand life is far too complicated and precious to worry about the little things you will forget you argued about last week!Realise no one is right, be grateful you have each other and be mature enough to realise this before its too late!You love each other, its only until you lose someone you love like I did (my dad) and watched him die for six months that you realise how trivial this small crap is!Enjoy your life and wake up to yourselves!Romance King
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2007): The reason you argue can attributed to a number of things. It could be a clash of two strong willed people where both of you, like to win and have your own way. Or maybe one of you is way too hyper sensitive and take comments from the other, in the the wrong way. Basically even though you love each other, you don't necessarily like each other and you both have personalities that don't mesh well. It's plain that arguing is taking a big toll on your relationship. The only way to do this, is one of you just has to decide to stop...stop allowing yourselves to get baited into arguing. You can't argue if the other refuses to. Quite simple actually. To do this, you both have to watch out for triggers that begin the arguments. And you both have to learn to respect each other a lot more. I suggest you both sit down and discuss how you can handle these 'triggers' and make a promise to start understanding each other. Learn to get in the habit of using some rationale and forethought as to how you will react to the other's comments and personality quirks. This will take effort and hard work on both your parts and it will be a long term process. Amazing what patience, maturity and understanding will do for a relationship. Good luck to you both.
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reader, xLEAHx  +, writes (28 January 2007):
 I think you need to sort out what these silly things are that cause you to argue and when you do find your selfs digging at eachother one of you should turn around and say 'OK STOP' it seems to me like although you love eachother these little arguments are proberly down to little you do that annoy you both or maybe thier down to jealousy or posessivness, im affraid the only thing you can do to save your relationship is to talk and sort these things out that you argue over,or maybe you just don't get along even though you love eachother.
xLEAHx
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