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writes:my man keeps doing drugs he says he will stop. Than 3 months later he dose it again we have a baby together i really want to make this work. What can i do to try and help him i love him. And i hate him. He breaks my heart. I dont know. Should i move on and kick him out? How come he keeps doing this to us. Why dose he not care? I'm so hurt. Please give me some good advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you so much you all have helped me understand what i should do [ commonsense ] he says he will start a treatment program this monday he will sign up for it, its free at are hospital i hope he sticks to it he said hed start it well see what happens thanks again. crystal
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reader, Mikados are lush!  +, writes (25 April 2009):
 The trouble with people on drugs is they can lie through their back teeth for England! My brother was pretty much hooked on cocaine, and was the one that told me that. If they want you to believe something, they will go out of their way to lie. But he is a rubbish role model for your child. So you have to give him a choice and a time scale. If he doesn't stick to it, then leave him. Sounds easy, but its really got to be that harsh. He will spend all your family money on drugs and be little or no use to you, only be a liability.
Nows the time to put the baby first.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2009): This is going to be tough love, tougher than you imagined.
You have to give him no choice. Either you leave him and take the baby or he goes and gets on a program.
Tell him he has two weeks to think about it - it isn't a discussion. But you have to follow it through.
if you don't think its worth your time and effort (e.g. if you don't think he loves you) then go find someone who is so into you that they don't need artificial stimulus.
what is he into?
Star.x.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (25 April 2009):
If he says he'll change and then he doesn't and then you forgive him... then why the hell would he think "Oh gosh, I REALLY need to change!"???
You keep taking him back so he knows it's not that big a deal.
If you don't want to live with a drug user then kick him out of your house.
Good Luck!! xx
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