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writes:I have a major boyfriend problem and need help. I've been with my partner for 4 years. On Saturday night we had a massive row and on Sunday morning we discussed it and in temper I told him it was over. He said fine. I didn't mean and I tried to tell him that but he won't listen. The problem is I own the house he has nowhere to go so he is sleeping on my couch. On Sunday night I begged him to come into bed and he said it was over and we were better off. Yesterday I sent him a text from work telling him I loved him and wanted to sort things out. Last night when I got home we were civil to each other and he fell asleep. I left a note for him before I went to bed telling him I loved him and wanted him to come to bed with me but he didn't. I don't know how to fix this situation. He is still on my couch and I want to sort things out but I don't know if he is playing games or he really does want it to finish. I mean if he really wanted out of the relationship then he could find somewhere to stay. Can some one give me some advice to what is going on here. thanks L
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reader, Serenity1  +, writes (31 March 2009):
 on one hand he may be being stubborn...and on the other hand he may just be waiting until it's convient for him to leave.in any case you've already humbled yourself and made the first move to reconcile...the thing is men take these types of things really serious...if you know his living status (know he has no where else to go) and you still didn't hesitate to tell him he had to leave while angry...well he probably took that real serious...as a man his ego was probably shot down and he probably started to think of his self and his self worth at this point in his life...so maybe telling him he had to leave wasn't the greatest thing to say ESPECIALLY if you really didn't mean it...now he's probably nervous that everytime you and him have a disagreement you're going to threaten putting him out of YOUR house, which to me isn't fair...i imagine he may have been wrong and pissed you off in you twos argument...but him having a secure place to stay at one minute and not having a home the next because he may have pissed you off is crazy...at least if you put him out give him a 30day notice...hope this helps...its based off my own experience...when a man's home is threatned they tend to hold resentment...
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