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writes:i dont know what to think!..i dont even know how im suppose to feel..oh wow ok real quick..me and my ex broke up on BAD terms..i tried talking to him the other day and he shouted at me..we had a tiff..ended in him threatening to punch me..so i said go ahead..neadless to say it never happend and i walked away..we broke up nearly a year ago and i just wish i knew why he portrays such hatred towards me.. does he still have feelings..hes not like this with anyone of his exs..when we was dating we was always with his friends..there was a rumour i slept with his best mate which is deffinately not true..but i really think he belived it..we argued alot towards the end..if he had a problem he would just not talk..he called me un appreciative which i am not..i shouted at him once coz he wasnt talking which i know i was in the wrong for and i admit when im wrong but he cant..he apologised to me once but it meant nothing because we still dont talk..6 months after we broke up he was still telling poeple i was a whore etc and that he hated me..wouldnt go anywer i was and would certainly not talk..is hate the flipside of love??please dont say forget this as we have the same friends..( kinda ) and its annoying..sometimes i really really hate him and other time i remeber the gud times..and most of the time i just dont care..well.... any thoughts would help thanx :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2008): Yes, it evidently was a bad break-up. You said when you were dating him you often got together with his friends.As things stand now, your best bet is to stay well away from any of his friends - at the very least, for heavens sake make yourself absent if there is even the remotest chance that he will be there! Would probably be better just to let those friends gradually fade out of your circle. However if you feel you can not let them go, you need to be cautious and make sure you only see them when he isn't present (yes, I know I'm repeating myself).Even after six months your ex still has a lot of anger toward you. He made it clear he doesn't want to be around you socially. Not only that, but if he believed you slept with someone else, and is so insulting, why should you care about him? You deserve to be well rid of him!I have to add, that not being social together once a permanent break up has occurred, is for the best. Think about it: you once were bf-gf but not any more. That relationship is history, part of the past, over, finished. You need to move on with your life - and he needs to move on with his.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2008): Yes, hate is the flip side of love.
Love and Hate are both emotions or feelings. My opinion on someone really not caring for you is when they dispaly no feelings at all. They could care less one way or the other.
When someone is spending time hating someone that means the person they are hating is taking up some space in their mind, lol.
So to me, you are still in his system. Does not sound like a healthy situation at all. Please be careful with this one and protect your heart and mind. Continue on in your circle of friends if you can, but do not give him the pleasure of upsetting you.
Keep your head up.
Qchele
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