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writes:I have been in my current relationship with a slightly older woman, she is 36 and im 29, for about 7 months now. We hadnt met before last week as it has been an internet romance. None of this, I believe, has any relevence to my conundrum, having said that i added it incase it may.we met and we did indeed hit it off amazingly well, lots of travel 2,000 plus miles in the week we were together, my problem lies in the relations area...Aside from my apparent size deficiency, i seem to also lack the libedo that she does, can any one help nudge me towards a way to rectify this? Because, even after 7 months, I am already planning to pop the question as soon as she removes the irritation currently stopping us being together fully.I have noticed a question akin to this on these pages but the gentleman in question seemed to imply that the fault laid with his better half, being "too much of a man"?!?! I am fully aware that the fault is mine i just want to fix it as she means the world to me.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (21 July 2010):
Then all that's left to do is talk to her. I am guilty of trying to read a woman's mind...don't go there. Left me more confused.
If she is that blunt with you, then just let her tell you what she really wants.
Sometimes men and women play these games...She expect him to know what she wants, because well, you should...wrong. Men give it their all, and then wonder what they are doing wrong. What they are both doing wrong is not telling each other what they really want.
As I was told by a wise old lady...don't be afraid to ask for directions...it just helps you to get there sooner.
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reader, cerberus8472 +, writes (20 July 2010):
cerberus8472 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOh believe me there is absolutely no possitivge feelings for him any more, shes just... blunt she speaks her mind no matter who it could hurt, its part of what drew me in so effectively.Apparently the sex was the ONLY thing that even began to approach decent in their marriage he was never physically abusive but was certainly verbally and mentally. When she plucked up the courage to leave him after her youngest was born she never looked back.All I have to give is hers thus I want to find a way to give her more! I'm sure I sound pathetic but its how I'm built.and please I am very happy to hear from some one who is telling it to me straight! I think I may already know some of these things I just need them spelt out for me sometimes!
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reader, BrownWolf +, writes (20 July 2010):
Well change positions, see if you can reach that spot. If not, a vibrator may help.Second, and not to be rude...why is she comparing you to her ex?? Sorry for being blunt...but if she enjoyed it with him so much, why is she with you?Look, pleasing a woman is great, but I do not want to be compared with anyone...this is me. You either help me reach that spot, and we are good...Or fine someone who can.I would not let someone bring down who I am because of an ex. Sorry if this sounds mean, you sound like a great guy, losing yourself over someone she seems to still care about.
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reader, cerberus8472 +, writes (19 July 2010):
cerberus8472 is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni totally agree Mr.Wolf but that side of things im good with, she has even commented that the kissing touching and foreplay is the best shes experienced, but the problem is she has stated that as her husband was slightly bigger and he reached a spot just out of reach for me, maybe thats affecting me too :S i dont know
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reader, BrownWolf +, writes (19 July 2010):
You are not by chance thinking too much or over thinking the size issue are you??
I will give you this advise...The penis is not the only thing that pleases a woman. Learn that much and you are good to go.
Kisses, touching, and foreplay, will get you laid any day. The more you think of ways to please her, the more turned on you will be.
Libido starts in the mind, not the penis.
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