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writes: My ex broke up with me a month and a half ago. After we broke up we agreed to be friends. We talked online etc for a while, but after a while I believe I pushed her away by telling her that I missed her and writing her poems etc. We haven't spoken at all in about 3 weeks. I know for a fact that she broke up with me because I was acting insecure and needy. I am positive we will be hanging out again in the next month or two, because I am very close friends with her brother and her family and they all want me to come over. Even her mother said something to her to the extent of "You're being immature about this, it's been over a month, you should just allow him to come over and hang out with his friends." I really don't understand exactly what the problem is. I have been very nice to her when we did talk. I've hung out with her brother and my other friends at other places (going out to eat and stuff). She even told me when we broke up "thanks for handling this like a man." I believe I showed her that I was not acting like a man, and that I was being needy and insecure again by sending her emails and stuff telling her that I missed her. I know for a fact that she believes I am going to try to do something to get her back. I have told her that I will not do that, if she wanted to go back out with me she would have told me so, and I left it at that. I think she feels uncomfortable with me coming over for that reason, that I will try to do something to get her back. I've tried every way possible to convince her otherwise, and since then we haven't been talking. If and when I do go back over there I want her to see that I am no longer insecure and needy. Is there anything I can do to let her see that? I don't want to come out and say it because that's far too obvious. Any suggestions for my situation?
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (26 January 2006):
 Go on over to her house and hang with her brother and your other friends. Be friendly towards but just friendly. Over time she will feel more relaxed around you. She will let you know if she wants more from you than just friendship. Go have fun!
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