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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I are Juniors in College, both 21, and have been dating for 7 years. We love each other dearly, but feel we have no time for each other. we never fight, and frankly I feel like we have a very good relationship.. when its going good ( most of the time) . He would Agree. We have broken up one other time for 2 months a couple years ago. But this last couple of months we have been too busy to do anything for or with each other. The most we do with each other is go to bed at night. When this started happening, I started nagging. I guess I just wasn't getting what I wanted. I never get attention like I used too, or even the simple " I love you" texts. I feel he is always excited to see everyone else but me. I don't think its "dull" by means, because we still have that connection, but its just different now. Since the arguments grew, we haven't been getting a long. We talked civil on the phone last night, and he told me if we were 25, out of college, he would have gotten down on one knee to marry me, but right now hes confused. He knows im great, and I know he is. But he said there is something pulling him away from me. We decided on a no contact, still together, one week break to let things cool off. My question is, what do you think the chances are of him realizing we are meant to be, and just putting that little extra effort can go a long way for us? I don't want to lose him :(Everyone says a break is just to hook up, but I can guarantee that's not this case. I think its more of a breather for both of us, instead of us arguing in circles.. I just want to know what you guys think on us staying together. My friends all think he will stay, but I would like an outside opinion
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reader, kbdd +, writes (26 October 2010):
 okay you are right, if he loves you ofcourse its not a hook up. But PLEASE stop if you love this man with all your heart I know at times itll feel like everything is so rough but you have to fight for it. He is probably tired of the arguments and nagging you are doing. I just lost my boyfriend yesterday because of this and much more. BUT PLEASE stop i know it will be hard there are many things I had to overcome and just deal with use it as a time to complete a goal or some goals that you have not, to better yourself as a person. He will come back but apoligize please, dont say to much but JUST apologize. but you have to mean it. When he comes back know that everything will be okay, as long as you dont say anymore that what you have during the break if you have. Just when yall are officially back together, when you feel that urge to be with him know that he is busy, if it gets to a habit of him hanging with his friends all the time and you still dont get any time. Dont argue, but confront him a note would be the best idea. let your friends read it make sure your not bombarding him. And just let him know If we both want this to work i know itll be hard but we have to make some time for each other. Just please dont ruin it cause im hurting right now im trying to be strong.
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