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writes:Hi,I'm in a little bit of a dilemma, and I need some advice. I met this girl in her late twenties on a dating site. She made the first move. We've only traded a couple of messages back and forth, and are planning to meet tomorrow.She said something that kind of struck me as odd --- her parents want to know what I do for a living. Her parents, and not her? That just doesn't sound right, in my opinion. The trouble is...I'm not working at the moment. I did work for a year and a half at a supermarket, and am currently waiting to be accepted by a vocational school. I have about two years of college under my belt, as well.What should I say to her? I can't seem to figure out the right way to go about it. Should I be honest with her? I think I should.Thanks! Reply to this Question
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reader, MSA +, writes (2 June 2014):
 Relax, there's nothing to be worried about! Just tell her or her parents that you are not working now and waiting for a vocational school to accept you. It's nothing bad and not a big deal. I'm sure neither her nor her parents expect you to be the CEO of Google at this age. So please just relax and be yourself! They will appreciate you and I'm sure you'll leave behind a good impression! ^_^
Good luck & don't forget to SMILE!
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (1 June 2014):
 "What should I say to her? "
You say to HER, (not to her parents).... "...I'm not working at the moment".....(and)... "...am currently waiting to be accepted by a vocational school."
Did you notice that the "answer" to your question is right there in your submittal? What the heck is the matter with telling somebody, straight-up, what the facts are????? Do you think you can dance around this issue.... and believe that THAT will change things?????
Good luck....
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (1 June 2014):
 Her parents might be curious, I can't blame them. But I think they could have asked her and since YOU didn't tell her about your job situation they made her curious.
JUST be honest, how hard is that? Now if she ends it because you don't have a job, then.. she wasn't for you.
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reader, justanotherlovequstion +, writes (1 June 2014):
 Just say that your currently unemployed and you have been searching , but thinking about starting your own business. if u dont wanna lie then dont
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2014): Yeah be honest, but like an interview for a job butter it up a little.
Not having a job is not a problem as long as you have ambition and a plan, so be sure to highlight those. Then again you are a yank and not having a job kind of makes you worthless to women there so who knows what her reaction will be.
You're right though, it's far too soon for parents to be involved and even using it as kind of "I have a friend that..." deflection when she's the one who wants to know is weird too.
When it comes to something a person will find out in the course of dating you never lie. Only lie when it's appropriate "no you're not fat" "yeah she's pretty but I didn't notice until you said it" etc.
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