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writes:Hello, a lot of time has passed and i still have interest for a man that we are just friends. We have come more near during the previous time but nothing has happened to imply a relationship. I can't really ask him or say something about this because i 'm afraid he will reject me. So i am always a little indifferent so as to leave him with more doubts as i can. I don't think that he hasn't understand my interest for him but i haven't told him that openly ever. Not ever he has implied something for my interest. He is always very kind and not at any point express something that he dislike about my behavior or feelings that I haven’t really ever told him. Sometimes when my self-confidence is high when for example I ‘m dressed more provocative or I have made make up or I have made a trendy hairstyle, i see something as interest from his part but he doesn't ever make a movement or say something forward to it not i either make something more as he didn't make or say something more. I don't want to lose him at all so as he doesn't make something i won't ever make something. The real thing is that we are in a friendly environment where there are a lot of other friends women and men known to the two of us. And the impression that a relationship between us would have to them if they have known it is something that i think he concerns him and me at some point but not so much as him. I don’t find something better that I could do about this, at least I enjoy his friendship. Do you think that I could do something more advanced? Sometimes I think that if my self-confidence has been always high I could proceed as he doesn’t and really wouldn’t have happened something that could hurt me. But I ‘m really not so self-confident so as to make the next movement. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2015): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI just follow your advice and i haven't make directly any movement although i feel that somehow he provokes me. For example, he often refers to other women as friends, "simply friends" or he implies something more? And other time he mentions about some going outs of himself that i am in desire to ask him to go with him or ask him with whom he is going out. I don't ever ask him, i try not to think and give importance although i feel very jealous. Do you think that i should ask more things such as with whom he is going out, where he is going out or that would be indiscreet from my side to ask him personal questions? And would it be better to show somehow indifference and let him tell me whatever when he wants?
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reader, Slippers  +, writes (23 July 2015):
I would say " don't " make the next move as in ask him directly or anything but maybe your going to learn the act of being a bit cheeky and flirty to see if he takes the bait .. For example if you catch him looking at you when dolled up .. stand with your hands on your hips and head slightly to the side ( practice in a mirror ) grin like a idiot and say laughingly hmm do I have something on my face .. or say in texts it's pretty here and hey the weather good as well haha ..
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2015): Hi!
You say you can't ask him as you feel nervous he would reject you, and i think he could feel the same way and worry you would reject him if he asks you.
Perhaps if you act indifferent towards him like you said, you will leave him with doubts and create the fear of rejection.
i think take things slowly and try to not be indifferent and try to give him confidence that you could like him, then if he likes you too he may be able to ask you.
Other people may have different advice, however as a man i know when i like a girl, i'm constantly looking for signs she may like me and if for a moment i have doubts i will not have the confidence to make a move, as we are scared of rejection too!
I hope you find the best solution!
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