A
female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I'm getting ready to get into a fwb situation for the first time in my life. This is someone I dated a long time ago for 5 years. Since the BU, there are no lingering emotions. We f***** well together and are both wanting to start that up again. I do NOT want anything else out of this except sex and have told him that I am completely emotionally detached. My questions is, what can you and can you not do in these situations? Do you f*** and go home immediately? Do you cuddle? Do you go out and do stuff together? I don't want to give the impression I'm wanting more out of it than sex yet we were great cuddlers back when we were dating. So what's acceptable? Maybe I'm over-thinking it. Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, Jaeger12  +, writes (26 July 2015):
I've been on/off with my FWB for over four years. Let me tell you, we all think that we are not going to develop feelings but at least one of you always do.
He's destroyed every relationship I have ever had and vice versa. Because they're always there in the back of your head.
My rule would be this, set a time limit for how long you are going to be FWB for, I wouldn't recommend anything longer than six months.
No cuddling, No staying the night, No communication unless its to arrange a time.
because otherwise you just end up falling
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2015): I was in a fwb for 2 years but it became to complicated we were supposed to just have sex with each other no one else he told me he started getting feelings for me and I also had for him we only lived 5 doors away he invited me round once and there was a womans top and hairbrush on his floor in his bedroom I asked him about this he told me there were his sisters we carried on having sex one night I had been out and I got out of the taxi and saw him stood at his flat cuddling and kissing another woman he broke my heart the point of this is fwbs do not work in my expeience and other friends of mine I have spoken to one of you always ends up developing feelings and he other one getting hurt
...............................
A
female
reader, mystiquek + ♥, writes (22 July 2015):
 I've never been in a FWB relationship but from what I've seen on DC I don't think there really are any rules. The main thing is that it is a no strings arrangement and either one of the parties can end it at any time or see anyone else they want. To be honest, many people come on here complaining about FWB relationships and how they just don't work too well so the best thing you can do is to sit down with the guy and talk about it. What are your expectations? What are his?? What goes and what is off limits? Even in this kind of a relationship or lack of one I guess, its nice to know where you stand. If you can stay friends that's awesome but rarely does that happen. Usually one person starts caring and that's when the hurt starts. Good luck!
...............................
A
female
reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (22 July 2015):
 That's between the two of you. I don't think there ARE any rules set in stone about FWB. Except.. that if you (or he) find someone they WANT to be with relationship-wise - the FWB usually goes away or goes back to a friendship.
Some people have a rule of "exclusivity" (only having sex with each other), some don't.
So I'd say that you ask him what he thinks.
...............................
|
