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*uncantee6
writes:Hi Guys, I am confused at the moment and need advice. My girlfriend received nude pictures from a guy she had a fling with way before we started dating. He asked her for pictures and she replied saying no you should send me pictures. he ended up sending pics in his underwear and asked her for pics. She didn't send nude pics she sent a picture with her and her friend standing next to each other. But she was entertaining the conversation saying wow so much pressure, i will send later. They then went on to speak about the other friend in the picture and how big her ass is and stuff. Help? what do i do? is this cheating? she has apologised for this and has understood but I do not know if this cheating or what although she did not send the nudes and did not say she misses him or they should meet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2018): It's way too flirty for a lady with a boyfriend.
It's disrespectful and inconsiderate. It's not cheating.
It's time she cut ties with a guy sending her half-naked pics; if she wants you to stick around.
Ask her, do not order her, to discontinue contact; because his behavior is inappropriate, and makes you uncomfortable.
Judge her by her reaction to the request.
Decide if she's worth your time if she wants to keep-up the flirting. If she agrees to block him; and you later discover that it continues after you have asked her to stop. It has entered the realm of cheating.
Is she officially your girlfriend, or do you call her that because you're dating? She doesn't seem to be taking your romance seriously; if she's accepting underwear-clad dude-pics, while she's seeing someone exclusively.
I wouldn't ask her twice, I'd be outta there!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2018): It is cheating in my opinion, because she is doing things with another man that YOU didn't know about and that she has felt the need to apologise for that behaviour. It could have led to her sending nude photos at some point, but either way, as you say, she was entertaining the conversation, one she felt she had to apologise for. If she is in a relationship and a man asks her for nude photos, she KNOWS what he wants them for. So why did she carry on talking with him? Even saying she was going to send some later. If a boyfriend of mine had behaved as she has done then in my opinion he would have crossed a line.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (27 July 2018):
 It's not cheating, but it's weird and inappropriate. Why encourage nudes from someone you're not with? It just seems immature of her and inconsiderate.
Ask her if she'd block him. If she says no, you know where you stand. If someday you notice she's unblocked him (don't snoop!), you know where you stand. Don't allow it to turn into an argument, just ask her once "please can you block him? I don't feel comfortable knowing you're asking each other for nudes." Then drop it.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (27 July 2018):
 Is it cheating?
No. But it is inappropriate and she OUGHT to block him. Why would she even entertain a guy who isn't her BF asking for nudes or any kind of pictures?
I'd ask her how she would feel if YOU were doing what SHE is doing. See what she says.
And YOU have to consider if you want to date a girl who thinks that is OK to do while in a relationship.
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