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writes: my friend asked out a girl and this girl is looking for someone for her best friend. So my friends girlfriend tells her best friend about me. My friend tells me theres this girl and she's my girlfriends blah blah and she wants to know if you want to hook up. First I say no cause i dont know this girl, so then he keeps egging me on so i said lets double date. So me and this girl talk for a week joking around on the computer talking about our day and so on. IT comes. We first eat and we all talk to each other. Then to the movies. We all sit ourselves next to each other. About 30 minutes into teh movie she rest's her head on my shoulders. So i hold her hand and we keep watching, then she looks up to kiss me and so we do. we did it twice but i pulled away both times cause it felt that she wanted to keep going. Well it was my first kiss but other then that all i wanted to to was get to know her a little better. And as much i think alot of guys would want to get kissed by a pretty girl I think it was a little forward after only talking online for a week and only meeting up for one day. Now im not to sure if alot of people do this on a first date. I just want your advice. Im thinking of asking her out again. Im not sure what to do and so my main question is do you think her kissing me after just meeting me was to much or she was just showing me she liked me? Should I kiss her on the next date?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2009): Don't overthink it. Go at a pace you're comfortable with. If you would prefer to get to know her better before going any further, try going on dates to places that don't invite making out. Go out somewhere in public, to a restaurant or something.What is it that makes you worry? Do you worry she's a 'certain' type of girl? Do you worry she only wants you for one thing? Try and remember that you have been talking on the internet for her for a week now. Whilst that not may be much to you, she may feel like she is already quite familiar with you.I think it would be a real waste to pass this opportunity to get to know someone because she kissed you. If you're not ready for it yet, like I said, maybe try and avoid places where kissing is all there is to do! If you perceive her to be getting confused or upset you could always just be honest and say you want to take things a bit slowly. Or you could just kiss her. There's a lot of fun to be had with it!
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reader, duce00  +, writes (30 October 2009):
 Easy tiger!
You are thinking way too much about this. If the feeling is genuine and mutual then kiss away! That right there is the whole shebang on the rules of kissing. The only stipulations I would add are things like respecting protective fathers with baseball bats and not kissing while speeding down the freeway. You know...life and limb kinda stuff.
I would say that going further early on is generally a bad idea. That would be another post though.
You sound like a decent respectful guy and that might be why she likes you. Don't go looking for flaws in one of the greatest joys there is my boy!
PS: Yes you should kiss her on the next date...not too much tongue though!
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reader, Kalyov +, writes (30 October 2009):
 Sounds like my first date with my ex.
My friend started liking this guy and she wouldnt go on a date with him unless it was a double date so via internet he introduced me to his friend that went to the college in the town next over. We talked for maybe 2 weeks before we had our movie date.
He was very handys during the movie and after he tried to kiss me but I said no...I didnt want to kiss on the first date.
Well later that night after I got back to my dorm I got online and he asked me out and I said yes...
The relationship lasted a month...he cheated on me three times during that month too.
Thats just my story...hopefully things won't be the same with this girl in you.
I just warn you to be cautious.
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