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writes:i just get over him, he loved me but he left me without any good reason... i dont understand why is he doing this? dont know why he is being so horrible?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2009): well looking at the original question and the responses of the females, it seems that all of you woman don't understand anything about men at all. Let me explain, men drop hints very casually in conversations of what they want and what they expect from their women, generally i have noticed, women fail to pick those hints or completely ignore them as they don't feel that it is important enough for their men, at one point or another all these ignored requests as you may want to call them just pile up and make the man go mad and he just gets rude, which again women fail to understand. After this process is repeated 3 to 4 times men start thinking about ending the relationship and when they do they leave women wondering and confused. I am not saying at all that you should fulfill all his requests that he has dropped as hints in his conversations maybe 60%to 70% but please do make a note of them, and if he is insisting on something repeatedly do it because no matter how trivial it may seem to you it is important for him and you may never be able to grasp its importance to him. It may sound strange to you but all men keep score and have a point system in place in their heads and they don't even realize it. If he has done something nice for you, he expects something back without having to ask for it.
It is kind of confusing, men don't want to tell women what they want from them and expect them to do it. In order to aid them they drop these hints very casually that for a beginner they are barely noticable.
I hope you understand because not many women can understand this and thats why men eventually leave them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks guyz.. but the problem is it's been 4months, 1 week and a day, we broken up.. i just can't get over him, we used to talk but on 8th aug we decided to stop talking completely bcuz things wasnt wrking, he jus got hard feeling bcoz i doubted him, we suppose to get married 5months back, i over reacted, bcuz he didnt had much time for me, he was buzy wrking plus i hate his facebook, full of sick girls.
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reader, QuirkLady  +, writes (9 August 2009):
 There could be lots of reasons but they all boil down to that he doesn't want to be with you anymore. It happens sometimes...we end up with our hearts broken for stupid, lousy reasons. But you'll bounce back eventually. Just be patient with yourself and it will happen.
Good luck.
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reader, Aomega54  +, writes (9 August 2009):
You could try tp make yourself feel better by telling yourself that he is an a** and you deserve better ..
But what do you REALLY want - to be feeling better, or actually BEING BETTER? I don't know you at all, but have you considered that he left you because there was a reason, and it had more to do with you than him?
Until you deal with that reason, you'll probably find yourself in the same pattern; dating the 'same' men...
AO.
PS. Oh, and don't believe anything anyone ever tells you on the Internet ;)
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (9 August 2009):
Truth be told, we don't know either. It happens to a lot of people, it's happened to me before. Just poof, gone...being rude for no reason with no explanation. It happens, but you just have to keep your mind busy and put yourself out there to keep on having fun. It's hard, I know first hand. But you'll be okay, it just takes time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2009): well, if he cared as much as you do you two would still be together, so with that you have your answer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2009): I don't know either. You know how guys are, sometimes they just leave without saying anything. Don't worry, get over him and find someone else. He's not worth your time anyway.
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