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Us women want Pleasure Too!

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Question - (5 January 2012) 9 Answers - (Newest, 6 January 2012)
A female United States age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Why is it that most men ALWAYS want their Women to go DOWN on them. BUT in return Some men DONT want to go DOWN on their Women. Why is that? US WOMEN WANT TO BE PLEASURED TOO!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2012):

Personally it's the first thing I do with a new partner because I learned a long time ago that the way to many women's hearts is through an intense orgasm. There is no better ice breaker really and if a guy makes it the thing he does without prompting or asking for anything in return in the beginning then he can get a great reputation for being good in bed before he's even taken out his willy. I find it's greatly appreciated too and girls are generally more than happy to reciprocate and do whatever you want. It's pretty logical to me I don't see why any guy or girl wouldn't give head to be honest regardless of whether they like to or not given the profound effect good head has.

That said I do expect it in return and won't accept a partner won't do it. After giving them a taste (for lack of a better term) of what they will be missing if I'm less inclined to give something I'm not getting back it's rarely a problem.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2012):

THANK YOU TO ALL WHO ANSWERD AND REPLY TO THIS QUESTION.

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A male reader, JustHelpinAgain Canada +, writes (6 January 2012):

I guess its difficult to find out in advance if a guy likes doing this as its not really a topic you would bring up in casual conversation. A woman could always make it a prerequisite before actual sex, most guys would probably do almost anything in that situation. To be honest though I dont know any guys that have a problem with oral. I suggest you try and keep oral to a 69 arrangement so both give and enjoy at the same time.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2012):

There is no generalization on men who like/hate oral. My girlfriend went down on me for the first time (her first and my first). Once she did it for a while, I went down on her. Guess what? It was the first time I ever did it. And she didn't expect, she NEVER expected me to EVER. So it depends on the individual, I'm a man and I love doing it for her, my best friend hates it, I'd put it in thirds, some hate, some love, some just do it.

Moral of the story: Find someone who likes it.

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A male reader, Fatherly Advice United States + , writes (6 January 2012):

Fatherly Advice agony auntWhy is the most "requested" sex act also the most "detested" sex act?

FA

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (5 January 2012):

So_Very_Confused agony auntmy second husband HATED blow jobs. I had to teach him to like them as i like to give them.

my current partner loves blow jobs but can't stand to give oral but he pleasures me in many other ways...

my last husband LOVED to go down on me and was very very good at it... to be honest it's the one thing i really miss about him....

i dont' like to think in terms of MOST or ALL or even SOME

as many men will say ALL or most women dont' like to give blow jobs and what I know from my own life is that is JUST not true...

many many men i Know LOVE to give oral.... they prefer oral to intercourse....

I don't think your question has validity in my life....

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A reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2012):

Why do some women complain about guys not going down on them when there are plenty of other men only too happy to do it?

Some guys just won't, some guys don't know you want it because you don't ask, some guys don't think they should and they're woman still does it for them so they don't care. There are loads of reasons and just as many women refuse to do that as guys do.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2012):

I wouldn't say they always want...thats an absolute and indicates anger issues and not about problem solving.

Sorry if this is what is occuring in your relationship and you are left feeling things are unfair, all about him, and you are feeling neglected.

Hopefully you posting was a means to vent and you feel somewhat better and are now back to a thinking brain over an emotional/impulsive brain.

I guess if oral sex means that much to you and you want and need it; then yes it would be fair that you put effort into seeking a partner that holds the same belief/practice.

I wouldn't classify no oral as a deal breaker as there are many other avenues of pleasure that you both can explore and do for one another. And focusing on that over what you aren't getting- is a better solution that still respects the others no thank you and still gets you your pleasure.

Hope this was of help.

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A female reader, person12345 United States +, writes (5 January 2012):

person12345 agony auntThe some men who are like that, I'd guess it has to do with being brought up surrounded by media teaching that women are basically sex slaves placed here to pleasure men. You grow up thinking women are sex slaves, you behave as such.

But a lot of guys are more than happy to pleasure women, if your guy isn't pleasuring you and won't listen when you tell him you need it, why pleasure him? Don't, and if he still won't listen, kick him to the curb.

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