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writes: p. Don't forget the happy ending ! Your readers asked for more background into why an unhappily married man had sent me a letter asking me for a happy ending . The answer ....he was my Doctor and I was temporarily his patient when I had glandular fever . He told me that life hadn't begun for him . since the letter he stares at me , smiles .....I like him too but know it's a mess .We met at the wrong time .Advice appreciated .
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (19 October 2006):
 You obviously didn't like the advice the six aunts gave on your first post. You want us to give you the green light and the first response does just that. So now that you have one person who encourages you go ahead and let your life slide right down to the gutter.
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reader, stina +, writes (19 October 2006):
 Hello Anon,
If he's married, then doing anything with him is a no-no (even if he is unhappy).
I suggest finding another doctor and stopping contact with this man.
There are also other things to consider:
- You don't want to do anything to promote him wanting to leave his wife. Can you imagine what kind of drama this could start? Who knows what his wife is like.
- Does they have kids? You shouldn't be the one to help and split a family apart. He should be trying to salvage what is left of his marriage.
- And I'm sure you don't want him to use you, either. How do you know that you're the only one he does this with?
- You say you like him, too. Would you really feel good about pursuing this relationship and have his staff find out he was cheating on his wife with a patient. This could totally give him a bad rep at work. I know I wouldn't want to make someone go through that.
You probably don't want to get mixed up in this. It just screams of negativity in my opinion. (Have you tried thinking about the positives at all? And if so, do they outweigh the negatives? My guess is they don't.)
There are plenty of other guys (even doctors) out there who are single. Don't waste your time on messing around with this married one who seems to have a ton of baggage.
Take care.
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