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writes:some advise plzzzzz. from my previous posts you may remember my wife and i had separated awhile ago and she had played around. now back together and all seems good, but my trust in her is little if any.what i would like some advise with are the following;we have 5 children combined and my(our) youngest is 10yrs old, i had a vasecomy nearly 10 yrs ago. my wife seems much more in love with me since being back together and lately has been talking about wanting me to have the vasectomy reversed and having another baby. i love the idea of another baby but in the back of my mind i also wonder why she does when we are just starting to get some freedom. i know she hates working where she is as one of the guys she had here fling with also works there(i also hate that she works in the same place as him).do you think it could bring us closer and she is doing this to try and show how much more she does feel for me????also she has spoken about us buying the house that we live in. it is available to us to purchase if we wanted to and she is super keen for us to own our own home. but in the back of my mind i keep thinking about how when separated she was annoyed with the point that she couldn't have the house to live in and i stayed there.(my boss owns the house)....she is always telling me she loves me so much, kissing me, cuddling me etc. (in the past i was like that and she would always tell me that i am to clingy)the tabl on that side has turned big time, not that i am complaining but it just seems odd considering prior for nearly 15 yrs it was a problem.do you think she could have changed and does truely love me more or could it be a long term plan to roll me of the house and take me for more child support money????????really need some input from you all as my head is in 2 places and it is sending me nuts.......
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2009): I realize that its your wife, but women are ruthless; I wouldn't trust her! Get out now, while you still can! Leave and don't come back!
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (17 September 2009):
 You need to give this more time. If she truly has realized how very much she loves you her behavior will stay the same and your trust will rebuild. Hopefully she saw what she almost lost and is determined not to make that mistake again. Personally I wouldn't have another child simply because 5 sounds like plenty. And if you think the house is a good investment and you can afford it, then buy it, rent money is pretty much like flushing your money down the toilet anyway. Just try to relax and take things slowly.
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