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36-40,
*oneyluv
writes:Dear cupid, i am been very unhaapy of late my husband and i work 24-7 and we dont spend any quality time together except on our day off. We work together but never see each other if u see what i mean, when we re at home we never seem to converse and to be honest its not often we re at home together...when i @ home he is at work and vis vasa. i do try to communicate with him and i ve told him how i feel but all he seems to care about is work work work! MONEY MONEY MONEY! He said i should try to took at the positive things in life, watever that means!I am a long way from home and i dont have a social life, no friends only his family. i do try to go out and socialise and believe me when i say i go out thats like once every 2-3months anyway when i do he gets angry and cold and says i dont spend time with him. I have no one to confide in what should i do and i think i am getting to the point where i hate myself for getting married, I miss my home country, my family and my friends... sorry if this is to long i just really needed to get this off my chest oh and i ve also been looking at other people (men) what does this mean??
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2007): i think u shud tell him how u feel and that he should be spending more time with u so u can understand him and sort things out. After tryin this if u still feel the same way about him and that u still think that u dnt spend time together then u could jus end it but always try and work it out b4. cud u answer my question its above urs.
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (28 April 2007):
 One of the cornerstones in a relationship is communication and that is what's broken down here. You both need to spend some quality time together! Yes, he needs to work and maybe you do too but everything in balance. He's showing more time and attention to his work than he is to you and that can hurt. It may be he's trying to work hard to keep you with a comfortable lifestyle but what's the good in that if you're not happy?
You need to seriously sit down and talk with him (on your day off) and tell him exactly how you're feeling. Don't make him feel bad, tell him you love him very much as I'm sure you do deep down, (you're only looking at other men because YOU are not getting the love and attention you crave), but also tell him you are very unhappy with your relationship just now, let him know you feel lonely and unloved. Ask him does he still love you and still want to be with you? Tell him you don't feel loved... See if he can compromise and find time to do something together with you at least once a week to start with. Ask him to cut down his hours, what's more important to him... money or your marriage.
Let me know how you get on okay?
Eve
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