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*jruhm
writes:my husband and I just had a baby 2 months ago, but now i have no desire for sex. it's not that i don't love him, i love him more than life itself what is happening to me? i'm afraid he is going to cheat ! help me
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reader, YummyMummy  +, writes (29 July 2007):
 No sex drive is perfectly normal after having a baby. I have no sex drive at the moment and I'm 6 months pregnant.
Maybe chatting things through with your midwife/home visitor/doctor might help. I always find www.babyworld.co.uk a big help when it comes to looking up information about how I should/shouldn't be feeling.
I was worried when my sex drive dropped my boyfriend would get bored and go elsewhere, but I was just being silly and although it did cause problems I knew deep down that he would never cheat.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2007): Hi sweetheart,
Its perfectly natural to feel this way you just had a baby 2 months ago, some women are still bleeding then as I did, This should be a happy but knackering time in your life as not only has your body got to get itself back to normal, Your running around looking after a little person. Talk with your husband hun you have to have trust in a relationship, you may be feeling a little down as sometimes this can also happen after giving birth and feel a little insecure, The sexual side of your relationship will come back. Try other things to make him happy it doesnt have to be full on sex and relax Im sure it will all be fine love, YOU TAKE GOOD CARE LOTS OF LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2007): Once a woman has a baby her desire to have sex decreases. If he really loves you he wouldn't cheat and wait until you are ready to have a sex life again. Are you sure there are no trust issues here?
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (29 July 2007):
 If you feel that he will cheat on you so soon after having a baby, do you have any trust in him at all?
I'm sure he knows that after having a baby, things get different because you've got to make time for two people now and that sex life would be a bit off for a while.
Talk to him about it and explain how you feel. I wouldn't tell him that you think he would cheat, because he'll think you don't trust him ( do you?) and this will cause other problems.
I'm pretty sure he understands that sex life is gonna go a bit differently from now on. But talk to him. He's not gonna know how you feel otherwise.
Take care xx
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