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writes:Gonna get straight to the point here. My girlfriend has a small boy aged 2, who I think the world of, but, I'm incredibly shy around him. I have got a lot better around him but I find it very hard to talk to him when anyone else is around, I just simply go quiet. I really want to be able to connect with him vocally rather than just by actions but I have no idea how to do so. I've tried playing with his toys with him, play at the park with him, even pick him up and give him cuddles, which is fine but still find myself unable to utter a word to him. I'm worried that if this carries on, my girlfriend will just see this as a major problem and find me unsuitable...and break up with me. Please give me some advice, anything will do...
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2010): When my son was two, man you couldn't shut him up. BrownWolf is right talk him, as a person, do the playing thing, but as you do talk as well, even watch TV with him and talk about the programme. Just relax and don't try so hard.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (3 September 2010):
How was your relationship with your Dad?
The best way to talk to any child is to talk to them as a person. They only difference between two years old and 42 years old, is the size difference.
People think if you are 2 years old they must develop a special baby language in order to communicate. What they have effectively done is teach the child two languages. Baby talk and adult talk as the child gets older. Is there really a need...NO!
You may have to explain things more, but he is just a smaller version of you. If you can talk to an adult and not freeze up, a child is no problem.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (3 September 2010):
 All your problems are in your head. At that age, there are no judgments. Innocence still prevails, he bares no disliking to you. I doubt your girlfriend would find it endearing that you see things this way, how you wish to build a better relationship between the three of you.
I hope that helps.
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