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*helseaboy25
writes:Hi guys, I'm in desperate need of advice, so please can everyone write a response... i'll be forever greatfull!My question is... am i being played?! And is it desperate to take the earliest date she is free? How should I play it?Back Story-Okay, so a few months ago i posted up here. I messaged a girl i hadn't seen since i was 18 (i'm now 21), we used to go clubbing together and although I think there was some slight flirting we were both seeing people so nothing was attempted (weird way to say it i know!).I sent her a random message recently on fb and we agreed to meet up. We went to a bar, both had a lot to drink, talked for like 4-5 hours, a lot of compliments going back and forth of what we have achieved and how amazing the other person is (shes an actress, I'm becoming a banker). She adamant on driving me home as I had taken a cab, but as she was plastered I got her a cab. She then seemed eager to leave and rushed the goodbye which put me off.I spoke to her a few days later but we had conflicting dates so couldnt meet up before I went on holiday. I did send her a message as I became free on one of the days that she was. She said that I should come up with a plan for dinner and get back to her. I got back to her late on the day we were meant to meet up with a plan and she never replied to my message! I then sent her a message when I got back from holiday asking her out to dinner, she told me she would love to meet up and we sorted a date. The next day she sent me a message saying she couldnt make it as she was working late that night and that she would get in touch to reschedule. She never did!Now after two months I sent her a message saying she owed me dinner. She sent me a respone within a few hours (always a bad sign i find) saying that I owed her one and gave me Monday or Wednesday to go out.My question is... am i being played?! And is it desperate to take the earliest date she is free? How should I play it?
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reader, the_phoenic +, writes (19 December 2010):
This girl is playing on you
It is very obvious
Thatu
She is from the sick type who love to keep men running after her
While her mind is set on something or someone totally different
So let her keep the watch as a souvineir and let her out of your life
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reader, Tbosse  +, writes (19 December 2010):
 Shes not interested but playing the 'stringing along game' if that makes sense
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reader, Sex_counsellor +, writes (19 December 2010):
 It seems that you are both very busy people at the moment working hard at your careers. Do you think that you have enough time to give to a relationship? It sounds to me like she probably see's you as more of a mate than Boyfriend material as more is likely to of happened by now. Go out for dinner as you can't lose anything that way, but explain your feelings and judge her reaction. This will tell you where things are at in her head.
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reader, chelseaboy25 +, writes (19 December 2010):
chelseaboy25 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThis is what I thought. One thing I didn't mention was that after the night we went out for drinks, she left wearing my watch (I know we got hammmmered!). The next day she called me saying she had it.That evening I texted her asking her saying i wanted my watch back. She said she was out to dinner and that she would drop it off at mine. She came by, she was wearing my watch and slipped it off before I got to the door (glass door, i could see everything!). She gave me my watch and lingered for ages, kept asking what I was doing that night telling me she could get rid of her driver and do something.Told her I was going out, and she told me to call her later with my plans and she would come out. Sent her a txt that night at about 1 saying that I was at a friends house party and it wasnt her thing. She replied going have a really good night talk to you soon or something.I dunno, its just the way she was acting that night she seemed quite keen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2010): Thi girl is definitely not interessted!!
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