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writes:I havent talked to my ex in about 3 weeks after he made out with me (while with his new girlfriend) he asked if we could just be friends and i said no and he said he understood.I tried to keep my distance hoping it would drive him crazy that i havent talked to him but i dont think that it has. So i contacted him and said "I hope your doing good just wanna let you know if u ever wanna talk u can contact me" and he said "that wont be happening" i dont know how he is like this to me now when he was just wanting to get back with me 3 weeks ago but says he doesnt know how we would work right now because my parents dont approve. And he said he was doing great when i asked how he was doing, can anyone tell me a reason for this? He is so hott and cold towards me but then says just a couple days ago he has no feelings for me anymore. That cant possibly be true because just a couple weeks ago he texted me everyday and wouldnt go a day without saying i love you.He now says-i need to respect the fact that he is a new relationship and that he wants to make it work and not talk to him. wtf is up with this? If he wanted to make it work why would he still be missing me, texting me, calling me, seeking me out, while they were together?Now since hes kissed me hes all about "making it work" with this new relationship and doesnt even ask me about my life but he was so interested in it just weeks ago? Maybe i need to give the relationship a little bit more time to cool off? And then he will contact me until then im not going to contact him. Hes really not a bad guy i just dont understand why he would be so "i love you" one minute and "i dont have feelings for you" and "that wont be happeneing" the next its almost like he hates me one minute and loves me the next. But ever since we kissed its more towards hate. He got with this girl a short time after we broke up. So she is the rebound.1)Is there any reason why people try so desperately to hold onto the rebounds? is it because there previous relationship failed and they want the next one to work out so much even if they know its not the best, but they make it seem that way and think so "highly" of this new person, is there a reason there hot n cold with this ex's during this time and are desperate to make another relationship work? 2)I expect he will be calling or texting me sometime in the future because one minute he shuts me out and the next he wants to be apart of my life, i just tried to be friendly to him, after all he was the one who saught me out now he thinks im trying to ruin his relationship-this usually takes about a couple weeks time and then hes back again, if he does contact me should i ignore it?3)AND why does he always act overly happy about stuff its not like a friendly its like a in your face type thing and he always mentions "i know how i feel and i want to make this work" like hes trying to make me mad by telling me hes making it work with someone else. Hes gotten very serious very fast is there a good chance it will crash and burn very fast also?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2010): It doesnt matter. Stop contacting him n when he tries contacting u, ignore it. U guys broke up. So move on. If his new relationship fails, oh well. Its not ur problem.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (16 January 2010):
Sorry, but he's moved on. Time for you to move on too, no matter how hard. He's just not the guy for you at all.
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